Who am I: I'm a 30 year old male, living near London. I have a good white collar career, own my home, with no kids. I am poly and bisexual. I am physically fit, enjoy weightlifting training four times a week, but lean into more intellectual pursuits as hobbies. 5'9", White, With a muscular build.

What am I Looking For: A long-term kink partner, in person rather than online. Must have compatible kinks. Must be willing to share a SFW face picture fairly early into the discussion, and confirm they are that person, (and of course I will do the same).

The Kink Dynamic I am Looking For: My primary interest is the psychological elements of power exchange and mental domination/sadomasochism. For me a dom/sub pairing is more of an emotional state, a dynamic, than a list of kinks. I have a decade's worth of BDSM experience and consider myself a calm, emotionally mature dominant, respectful of my partners needs and limits.

I am a sadistic dominant. I have been in a range of BDSM dynamics over the last ten years, but the dominant side of control and pain focused power exchanges have been the most gratifying for me. This includes hard impact play (from over the knee spanking, to more severe play with spanking implements). rough sex, manhandling, CNC, and other pain and primal physicality related kinks.

More important to the dynamic for me than the physical kinks is a degree of emotional sadomasochism. This can come from heavy aspects of control and disciplining. But largely in the form in degradation, humiliation, and forms of hard roleplay. I like a dynamic that pushes hard on those emotional buttons, that inflicts a pain deep in my submissive's chest that for them comes with a deep catharsis. The nature of the dynamic will inevitably be unique to each individual I play with, and requires the building of trust, as well as a long discussion about consent, boundaries, safe words, and to ensure that we are both in this for the right reasons. That said, if you are looking for a play partner who is ready to push you harder psychologically than just standard kink play, then we have the possibility for a successful dynamic.

Additional kinks that I enjoy include edging, ageplay, petplay, breeding and and sensory deprivation, but none of these kinks are a necessity to the overall dynamic described above.

Gender Preference: I am open to cis-female, cis-male, trans and gender non conforming partners. My sexual preferences as less on a male-female spectrum and more in terms of Dominant vs Submissive. However I'm not interested in very masculine presenting bodies.

Personality Preference: Age 18-35. Able to handle situations with maturity, and generally easy going and drama free. I am eager to build an emotional connection with someone, and given the nature of the kinks, a thoughtful person about why the enjoy kink is needed. In general I prefer someone who is thoughtful and likes to have deep conversations about ideas. Ideally enjoys literature/culture, but personality fit is the most important.

Kinks I Don't Get On Well With: Brats - Sorry Brats, but my life is busy enough without wanting to deal with drama in my sexual fun. Scat, Blood.

Well that's me. Experienced emotionally mature 30 year old sadistic dominant, seeks his eager masochistic submissive with power exchange fantasies. Hope I find you!