Hi all!

My name is Nick, 34 years old and I live in the Netherlands. In my daily life I am quite a normal guy, work an office job, which I am quite passionate about, but outside of that, kink has become more and more important for me. Next to my vanilla lifestyle, I have had an interest in bdsm for the last 9 years, both online and in person. Besides that, I like to work out, play various sports, meeting up with friends, listening to music, hiking and travelling.

I am 6'1 (185cm), have dark hair, dark brown eyes, and a slightly muscular, fit body type. I am told I am pretty attractive.

I consider myself a (daddy) Dom, because not only do I like to own and control my sub, but i care about her too. In my past experience I have had a few long-term subs, and (unfortunately) some short-term subs as well (ghosters). For the past 4 years, I have also acquired more real-life experience.

For now, I am mostly looking for online to start, but ideally we would meet up at some point. That's why I prefer someone who is local. I won't rule out subs from other countries though.

What i’m looking for

I am looking for a female sub (18-34 years old) for a serious, but part-time dynamic. I am not interested in 24/7 control, I understand that your own private/vanilla life is a lot more important than this kinky lifestyle.

I would prefer someone whose time zone is not too far away from me, but from previous experience I have learnt that a lot is possible, even when you are 6-9 hours apart, as long as you are both willing and devoted. It might require a bit of flexibility though.

I’m looking for someone who, in time, after trust and respect is earned, wants to serve me in the best way she can (within limits), just because she wants to make her dom happy, being turned on in the process. Of course, your limits are always respected. I should also mention I prefer someone with a slim body type. You will need to be able to verify yourself. I will do the same.

I would like to talk and play with you regularly, but this can be discussed. I am interested in something serious, but I am up for something casual as well, depending on your availability and needs. Besides kink, I like to have non-kink related conversations as well. A good sense of humour is quite important for me.

Communication

Communication is really, really important in a dom/sub-relationship. I really want to know what you like or don’t, and what’s going through your mind. Everything can be discussed. If you’re not comfortable about something, I wanna know about it. I will never let you do something which you are really not comfortable about or something that includes great risks (public, family, etc). Aftercare is also really important. More important for me to know is what you need in this relationship, and before, during and after sessions.

Also, it’s quite normal for us, with busy schedules, to not always have time for this kind of play. I absolutely understand it if you’re not able to talk/play for days or even weeks, but just let me know it. I have had some subs in the past who, out of nowhere, just disappeared without saying anything. That is a shame and a waste of my time. Once again, everything can be discussed, just tell me. Ghosting, however, is just rude.

Kinks

It's important to me that our kinks (at least somewhat) match. The list below contains some of my favourite kinks. We can always discuss likes, dislikes and limits.

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• Orgasm control
• Tease and denial
• (Teasing/mild) humiliation
• Praising
• Bondage
• Edging
• Impact play
• Nipple play
• Anal
• Choking

Limits

Things we will never do:

Permanent damage, scars/permanent marks, heavy/extreme pain, scat, blood, needles, illegal, blackmail, dangerous; anything filthy, with too great risks or dangerous (the standard list).

And, of course, your personal limits.

The dynamic

Most of all, I prefer someone local, so we can meet up at some point. If you are far away and it would remain online only, then I prefer regular, daily contact via messaging, combined with a set of rules. On top of that, regular live sessions, depending on both our schedules, and weekly tasks. If everything goes well, I would like to meet at some point.

Besides that, outside of play time etc, I'd like to have casual chats as well! I want this dynamic not to be just about kink, but create an actual connection.

Are you curious about what I have in mind for you? Then feel free to contact me via a private message/chat and tell me something about yourself, your interests and what got you interested after reading this post. If you have any questions, let me know and I will answer them.