Okay let me start out by saying this: Do not for the love of all things unholy be up in my requests if you are not from West Michigan. I live around the GR area and I want this to be irl and not solely online. Yes I am nonbinary but you can still use feminine terms (good girl, my sweet girl, slut, bitch, etc) with me it doesn't bother me.

Furthermore I want to express that I disassociate heavily during sex due to CPTSD which means that I don't want to jump head first into this. Ease me into this starting out with touches, then foreplay then we can get into the intimate aspect of it. I'm open to short term but I am looking for long term. What my goal here is basically someone whom I can be hella kinky with but also share my life with.

I have only been with a handful of men and have only tried a couple of the kinks that was interested in. My kinks are of the following:

-Degregation -Humiliation -Breading (I'm currently in the process of starting bc) -Choking -Dom/Sub -Somnophilia - Brat/Brat tamer - Praise -Edging -Overstimulation -Primal -Voice -Spanking / Slapping (everywhere but the face) - CNC -Exhibitionist -Hickies/ bite marks -Cockwarming

Quick tldr: I got into this space through reading and writing erotica. I have done a lot of research because I first got into it through erotica and would like to try it out with someone who is experienced and willing to train/teach

I need to be very blunt with this when I say it: Do not start a chat with me if you are simply going to just expect pictures and sexting. Do not start a chat with me and then leave me on read or never respond to me because you're simply disinterested. Also don't start to sext me and then poof leave without a trace or even say "Let's not do the avoiding thing". Bro if you're not feeling it just say it. Communication is huge for me and if that's not something you're great at then don't bother responding.

My hard no's:

• I will not start this with someone who is 23 or under. Sweetheart you're a child in my eyes, please don't even try.
• I will not start this with someone who is 35 and older either. I can't wrap my head around getting in bed with someone who is the same age as my grandparents or my parents so no the cut off is 35.
• I also am not your side chick either. Don't message me and say that you're in a loveless marriage/relationship and you want something fun and exciting on the side. Sex is intimate, feelings get attached. I will not be your side chick, fwb or anything that is simply for the sex.
• Please don't text me if you're not at least an hour or so out from the GR area either. I want to go out with you, get to know you get your vibe, chat, touch, do stuff. I don't want to sit here getting all riled up and then absolutely nothing.
• Listen if you have no idea what aftercare is and you message me asking what it is it won't work out. Aftercare is a MUST
• I'm pretty heavy set too. I've got curves, freckles and a lot of my weight is in my ass, breasts and thighs. I'm sorry but if you can't pick up at least a little over 240lbs or you don't like bigger women then please please don't message me.
• No blood play, no knife play, no bruising me or full blown assaulting me , no shit or piss no just no , no age regression and finally don't be a creep either

What my type is / what I fantasize about:

• I have a huge voice kink. Voices that are similar to (sorry ik kinda cringe but he's the first person that came to mind) corpse husband: that deep growly, scratchy voice really gets me turned on
• muscles but not full blown six pack either (ngl shits hella hot but most of those guys don't like bbw 😅) I fucking love and I mean love a guy who has some flab around them but is still tone enough to where you know they're hella strong.
• tattoos, piercings (extra points if you are into the alt/emo/punk scene) listen I've had a crush on Andy from BVB since middle school and have always loved tattoos and piercings, shit turns me on so so much
• Someone who isn't afraid to apologetically be themselves and is willing and open to be honest, trustworthy, communicative, etc. don't string me along and then ghost me. That's not okay

So if you've made it this far great hope we can chat. Please if you reach out tell me about yourself, interests hobbies, kinks any and all details will assist in me speaking with you.

And to start with a question: As a dom what are the things you cannot live without in such spaces?

Happy messaging 😜😜