Hello!

As you perhaps guessed from the title, I'm looking for a woman who enjoys being submissive in the bedroom BUT also with a sense of humor and wants to get to know one another outside of it as well. If this sounds like you, keep reading!

About me: 44-year-old, 5’7”, long haired Vietnamese-American software developer dude who is eager to talk about something besides software development. I'm single, never been married and have no kids. I enjoy reading, practicing guitar, photography, video games, walking, and yoga. In the bedroom I enjoy being dominant once I'm comfortable; I think D/s requires chemistry and trust to be established with a partner rather than something to be jumped into immediately.

I'd describe myself as an "affectionate sadist" - I want to do stuff like hold hands and have dumb inside jokes but in the bedroom I want to slap you around and call you awful, degrading things. And yes, there will absolutely be cuddles afterwards.

What I'm Looking For: In a recent post here, the writer stated "I don't want to be a slut. I want to be your slut." That's exactly the kind of woman I'm looking for.

Looking for someone local to California at the very least, but open to chat with someone online with the possibility of meeting up in person at some point. Also would like to exchange unfiltered, SFW pics early on if we hit it off because A: physical attraction is important and B: getting catfished suuuuuuuuuuuuucks.

As you may have guessed, I'm most compatible sexually with women who are submissive in the bedroom and

• enjoy being treated roughly

• enjoy being degraded verbally

• are eager to please

but this list is not exhaustive and I'll be more than happy to discuss others as well as get into the specifics of what I've mentioned above. Also would love to find a partner who is up to trying out role-playing and/or bimbofication.

Random SFW Facts

• My best karaoke song: Careless Whisper by George Michael. Good Old Fashioned Lover Boy by Queen and Sunday Morning by Maroon 5 are close seconds.

• Currently Reading: How to Invent Everything: A Survival Guide for the Stranded Time Traveler by Ryan North. I was initially intrigued by the amusing concept of the book but it turned out to be an informative look at all the basic technology I use in my daily life. I'll never take animal husbandry techniques for granted again.

• Last Movie Watched: Psycho by Alfred Hitchcock. I know it's supposed to be a classic but the only thing I felt while watching it was bored. I can appreciate how revolutionary it was for its time but to my modern eyes it was sooooooooooo slow.

• Currently Watching: A bunch of random music theory tutorials that keep popping up in my YouTube recommendations.

• Favorite beverage: Mandarin orange herbal tea

If you're interested, let me know a little bit about yourself. Reddit chat doesn't work consistently for me so please send a Reddit message instead if you'd like a response. Looking forward to hearing from you!