Hi there :)

To start off, I'm demi/sapiosexual, which means that I'm really looking for someone that I can get to know and genuinely be interested in as a person before we take things further. I know that's a tall order, but that's okay, I'm not trying to rush in to anything, that's just the way my brain is wired. I'm happy to explain more about what this means as I think a lot of people don't understand it. A lot of people assume that this means someone sapio/demisexual is asexual, that's not necessarily the case. I am definitely not asexual, so don't worry ;).

In terms of what I'm looking for as a person, ideally you're professionally motivated in some way. That doesn't mean you need a fancy degree or anything, but just that you're interested in the work you do or the hobbies you have beyond just getting paid, bonus points if it's more of a technical area (hearing a beautiful woman talk about something technical is magic). You're also someone that enjoys having deep conversations about whatever topic comes up, freely bouncing from topic to topic as they come up, sometimes even staying up for hours just talking about nothing in specific, but still having an engaging conversation.

At this point I would heavily prefer someone local to the SoCal area (south LA or north OC), but with a good connection the distance matters less

A bit about me: I'm an engineer for work and outside of work I like cooking, watching Science/tech youtube, reading (SciFi and Fantasy), video games, etc. If it matters to you, I'm white and 6'3" and mostly in shape (just a little left to lose).

For kinks, I don't want to list a huge list of things, but I am a switch (leaning Dom, I guess, but I've only ever been a dom in person so who knows). Right now I'm interested in trying out more of the submissive side of things, as I've never been submissive with a partner in person. So you'll jump up to the front of the line if you're a gentle domme looking for someone new to being a sub (in person, at least).

I'm not the most traditional dom or sub, from what I've seen in my experience. What I'm interested in is the mental aspect of d/s, the giving up of control, and the trust/respect that lets a situation build into a pleasurable experience for both involved, trying new things to see how they affect the experience, etc. That's not to say there aren't "traditional" things I'm interested in, but I think ties more to the mental than the physical for me. Ideally it's more about always being equals, even though one person is in control

I suppose it should be pretty obvious based on what I'm looking for, but I will mention that I'm looking for something monogamous and not a hookup/fling, and ideally something in person instead of online

If that sounds interesting to you, even if you don't think we fit 100%, send me a chat. I'm always happy to meet new people and talk about life. Please at least put a little effort/info into your message. I dropped quite a lot of info about myself here, and if your message is just "hi" then I don't really know what to say beyond what I've said here