I remember when I first started understanding my kinks and immediately latched on to this idea that all Doms needed to be hard. They needed to be edgy and troubled and looking to let their demons out through their connection with others.
After my first three subs naturally went from calling my Master to Daddy...I realized I might need to reevaluate that.
Over the years, I've figured out more about who I am as a person, not just a Dom or a Daddy or whatever I happen to be in the moment.
I learned that I'm an optimist, and I want to see the best in the people I'm with, even when they bring struggle and heartache to me.
I learned that I'm a believer, and that if I choose to spend time with you it's not just because you meet a criteria of what I need, but because I can I see the potential of who you can become.
I learned I can be a bit of a people pleaser (not just in the kinky way), and that making the world around me a bit brighter can smile on their face gave me the most satisfaction I could ask for.
I learned I was a teacher. I love opening people's mind to new thoughts and ideas so they can grow from them.
But mostly...especially now that I look into my refined forties...I learned that I can find peace. Its this beautiful thing where you can feel safe and calm, and know that while struggles come and go, peace can be where you live. But I had to put in a lot of work to get here. I had to go through therapy. I had to correct my life. I had to put myself together in a way that pleased myself and the world. I needed to go to the gym. I needed to focus my heart. I needed to make enough money to find equilibrium.
I'm happy to say I've accomplished them all.
But now, I'm here in this peace...and everything about me wants to share that. I want to allow someone to be in my peace, and make it their own. I want to understand their issues and help them find their bit of sanctuary like I've found mine.
So of you if you've read this far might say, "This isn't much about kink"...but then I challenge you to read it again. If you still don't see it, I have plenty of posts in my history that can tell you more about who I am and what I hope to find in this partner.
This isn't just a personal. It's an offer. If you're interested in what that could look like for you...let's talk and find out together.