About Me:

Personally I'm intelligent, detailed, empathetic, progressive, and passionate. I love animals and music and have a wide variety of interests. The only sport I really enjoy is ice hockey and I listen to music of all genres. I've self-learned to read a few foreign languages (so I can horribly sing along to songs around the world). I'm analytical and encouraging. Also definitely a socially-capable introvert (INTJ-T if that counts for anything), as I require recharge from too much socializing but socializing is basically my job as I teach ESL online for adults. I am passionate about my progressive values and caring for those I consider close to me. Which is very few people compared to most, I think. I'm very picky. I like trying new things but I'm definitely a planner.

Disclaimer: I am in a long-term relationship that I have no plan or intention of changing. Mid-relationship I discovered this side to me and we aren't a match on this level but otherwise work very well for and with each other. She is aware of this need I have and actually encouraged me to find a partner for it. There is no intention of mixing my relationship with her with my relationship with you.

About You:

I'm looking for someone drug free, clean appearance (minimal tats/piercings), and interested in consensual inequality and following rules/instructions. Boob size and butt size are irrelevant to me since I'm a leg guy, and glasses are a big plus :p Single, married with dead bedroom, ethically non-monogamous, I'm open to whatever. Experienced or curious, I'm good either way as I take my time and establish boundaries. Have a passion for something. It's fine if you feel a little lost in life, we all do. Don't feel like you have to be perfectly defined here.

What I'm Looking For:

This might seem weird but I want to find a partner for this who enjoys exploring the things we think and feel. Mostly relating to us but also what we think about our favorite songs or movies or games. Sharing an article you or I read, or something you or I heard/learned in a podcast, flirting, teasing.. You know, fun stuff. It's a big plus if you also enjoy crossword puzzles and the like. Maybe have some tea or hot chocolate while we're on a voice call applying dirty kinky flavors to vanilla conversations. If you play video games, even better, maybe we find something appealing to us both.

The Kink

I enjoy flavors of TPE. This being online has certain limitations and that's okay for me, but having control over your wardrobe options, your orgasms, and other areas (workouts, movies to watch, stories to read, etc) we find mutually exciting and interesting is what I'm after. I also really enjoy discreet play as well as assigning tasks and creating new routines for you, small actions to perform to reinforce this dynamic and our roles in your head. I enjoy being able to engage in some private humiliation/degradation and I know with that comes a responsibility for me to build you back up, to comfort and reassure you. Aftercare is something I take seriously because this sort of arrangement only works when it has a foundation of respect. The things I say, the things I'll have you do.. I get that privilege because you choose to give it to me. I am not entitled to it and you are not obligated to give it. I can be gentle, I can be cold and you'll likely experience both.

Another thing I'm after is actual conversations about this. After 'playing' for 2 hours on voice, lets stay on the call and talk for another hour. What worked, what didn't, how things (said/did) felt physically, emotionally, etc. That part I geek out about, where all the doors are open and we share that.

With all that said, surely by now you can feel whether you're interested or not. If so, message/chat to say hello and either tell me what you liked in this post, or ask me for more information.