What am I looking for? In the end, I am ideally looking for an in-person dynamic, but I am fine with starting it online as well. I have experience with being a dom online, but in person, there are many things I have been unable to try so far. For me, the most essential thing in a dynamic is that a sub can feel comfortable and do things they feel comfortable with. If they desire long-term control (24/7 and intertwined in daily life), I am interested in that, but I am also interested in keeping it limited to sessions. As I said earlier, there is just too much for me that I have been wanting to try and do, and my fantasies/desires are all over the place, so there is a good chance we will overlap in regards to kinks in some way.

What I am not looking for: I would struggle with non-monogamous stuff, as I think it would just not work well for me. Something in a completely different timezone, e.g., US / Asia, would make things incredibly difficult due to the timezone difference.

About me: I work full-time in software development and enjoy scuba diving in my free time. As well as playing some video games. I became a bit chubby during COVID, but working hard to fix that now (I already lost around 10kg or 22lbs this year!) I'm relatively tall at 1m87cm and have medium-long, slightly curly dark brown hair. Furthermore, I have no piercings or tattoos. I have no photos on my profile, but once we talk, I have no problem sharing pictures of my appearance. I am not entirely comfortable posting those online right now.

Some of my wants/preferences are what I am looking for. Keep in mind this is not you must have everything but more some things that work well for me:

- Communicative: I like it when someone can be clear about what they like or dislike. What their dreams and wishes are.

- Willing to share pictures of themselves in due time, I don't even mean these as nudes, but I would like to know what you look like if things get more serious.

- I'm very open to both people knowing what they want and people with little experience. I think it's important to talk about what we want and find something we both enjoy.

- Someone who sees this as more than just sexting. I'm okay with it being very kinky, but I am human, and I have needs/wants outside of kink as well.

- Role-play is not my strong suit, and if it's something that you need, I can't offer you much.

- The age range is roughly in the [18-25] years; it's not an exact range, but roughly, so far, it is what I have been attracted to. ( obviously, being an adult is required)

So, with most of that paperwork out of the way, let's talk about some of my kinks:

- Denial/edging (long-term denial is a huge kink for me so if you are interested in that that's a huge plus point, if you have ever considered wearing a chastity belt that's even more of a plus point)

- wardrobe control ( controlling what the sub wears)

- anything related to control in general

- impact/pain-related ( giving)

- Ropes/restraints (I'm hugely interested, but I have much to learn here)

- Anal/anal training

- over stimulation

- (slave) training

- humiliation

- pet play

- 24/7 TPE (I have little experience with this but I find the idea super interesting)

This is a relatively short list, but I am very kinky with loads of things I do want to try, so there is a good chance that things not on this list are things I am interested in as well, and I am down for trying.

Some things I am not into:

- activities with multiple people ( I've had some fantasies about things but I think it would not be something I would do quickly)

- bothering non-consenting people with things ( I don't mind public play as long as it doesn't involve other people)

- animals

Thank you again for anyone reading this post. It illuminated who I am and what I am looking for. And regardless, I hope that everyone reading this manages to find someone that fits them well.