Hello kinky people!

I am Butterfly and I am 34 years old. I am poly and live with my husband in Alberta, Canada. We are not currently kinky together.

I am a switch, but I am specifically looking for dominant energy in my life.

My submissive side doesn't get a lot of attention. I am very much in control in my personal life. I am the planner, organizer, care giver. My submissive side is very vulnerable and therefore it takes me time to let her out. I really need to build trust and get to know somebody before I can submit. However, I am very eager to get to that point. I am very self aware, and I am an open book. I love to share and get to know somebody.

My biggest kink (and turn on) is control. Most of my other kinks stem from that control. I would love to share more details about specific kinks. I also thrive on experimenting, trying new things and pushing/finding my limits. If we aren't growing and learning then we are just dying and I am not ready for that!

I have love expectations to be honest. At the least I want to have a fun, flirty conversation. But I am open to finding somebody who I can truly build a loving, trusting connection with who I can show my submissive side and give myself to them.

I don't want to waste our time, so here are a few things that might be deal breakers for both of us:

• I am plus size. I am learning to love myself and after a few years of some medical issues, I am working on being happy and healthy.
• I am poly. I have a husband and two other long distance partners. However, I do have the capacity for another partner or else I wouldn't be looking. I always make time for those who are important to me.
• Right now video calls are in my limits. This is something I have worked hard on over the past few years, and might be something that I will grow comfortable with, but I don't want to guarantee anything. Voice calls and photos are very welcome though.
• I have a little side. We don't have to explore together, but I also can't suppress my love for Disney, glitter and stuffies.
• I don't jive too well somebody who can't put effort into a conversation. That starts with using non-text speak, and at least attempting to spell things properly. I am not a grammar nazi but if you can't type out the word "you" then I don't think we are going to be a match.
• My preferred age range is 27-47. There is some wiggle room but if you are old enough to be my dad, it just feels too icky.

I think that is all. So if you made it this far and you want to chat, please send me a chat message with some details about yourself.