You should enjoy pain. Enjoy both the physical sensation of it and the mental aspect of it. You should relish in having the strength it takes to overcome it. You should want to endure it. You should anticipate and need the pain and desire to submit to someone who will give it to you for no other reason than he wants to give it.
I'm not looking to love you. I'm not looking to make you mine outside of this context. I won't paint this in any other light than reality. You'll be giving your body and mind to me and I will use them both as I please, to our limits. I won't make it easy on you. I won't gloss over the unfun parts. I will give you something real.
I know the risks and how to stay safe with all of them. Most importantly I know the difference between hurt and harm. I also know that this involves alot of trust which is why I see this as an on-going thing so we can explore your need deeper and deeper.

Sadism is more mental than it is physical for me. I am looking for someone who would enjoy twisted mind games, enduring deep emotional pain and suffering for me. That said, I am *NOT* looking for a penpal. Physical and visual attraction is important to me. The idea of getting inside the head of someone beautiful and causing her pain is oddly very compelling to me. So only reach out if you are comfortable speaking over video chat.
Please don't waste my time. I am a experienced Sadist and Dominant 41 year old nordic male. Please be female, under 35'ish, clean, sane and discreet. Your relationship status doesn't matter to me, nor should mine. Whatever we share will be between us only and very much outside of our daily lives. Discretion is extremely important to me. We can discuss this if it is an issue.

Public me: For the outside world I'm successful, reserved, well liked and have my life together. I'm 36 years old, 6'3'', fit but not jacked, attended an Ivy League school, well traveled, speak 4 languages, and have a range of eclectic interests. I've had past vanilla girlfriends and a large circle of friends who just know me as exactly I've described above. Married and she knows. Not looking to change my relationship status.

Private me: In the bedroom, I enjoy control and I take over. I'm sadistic, rough, somewhat manipulative, demanding and unpredictable. Beyond the physical, there's a dark place in my head and I'm looking for a girl with complementary desires to fill it with.

You: Most importantly be yourself and know why it is you want this. If you don't know but know you do I can help you realize it. Be physically attractive (I am not attracted to overweight women), sane and understand the importance of discretion and mutual trust.

Next steps: Reach out to me with a brief description of yourself, time zone, age and the name of the last book you read.