I'm looking for a partner and a submissive; romance and kink; a relationship and dynamic; my muse and my canvas; my forever brat and the love of my life. I'm only interested in a long-term, monogamous relationship and something that lasts. No hookups or one-off's. The real deal or bust. Fine with it starting online as a LDR, but the goal is a 24/7, IRL LTR.

A good friend's take on me:

"It's cute how you admire beauty in a way that could kill you haha it just shakes you to the core and you start redefining things compared to it."

Me (the person):

I'm childfree (gettting a vasectomy this year), monogamous, single, lesbian, mom to a special needs dog, on sabbatical for my mental/physical health and changing careers, 420- and psychedelic-friendly, sober, non-religious but spiritually open-minded, married/divorced.

I say what I mean and make every effort to do what I say. I will never ask something of you that I would not do or offer myself. I will tell you how grateful I am for you, and why, as often as I can through my words, actions, and the occasional handmade gift. I will take and break as much of you as you'll permit me to, never any less, never any more. I will never let you doubt or wonder where you stand with me. I love to take care of the people I love, but I need to be taken care of too sometimes. I might be the Domme, but I have soft spots, trauma, and aches like any other human. Mommies and Daddies cry too. I'll cook for you and even feed you if that's your thing ("choo chooooo").

I am articulate, self-expressive, creative, empathetic, curious, and overall, somewhat complicated. In my life, I place a strong emphasis on growth and personal exploration. My practice of gratitude borders ritual. I seek new sensory experiences as often as I can, both sexual and non-sexual. I enjoy asking questions that may not have an answer yet permit my curiosity to run free. I am very introspective, which is the part of me you have to thank for such a thorough ad. I spend most of my time in the company of my dog who has been my constant source of companionship and physical affection for the past 2 years. I’ve put aside professional pursuits for the time being in order to work on my physical and mental well-being. I know the power of therapy and it's helped me flourish in new ways.

My humor is witty and dry, and always dependent on the audience. I enjoy temperate if not cold weather and loathe the heat. Being near water makes me feel at home. I love farmer’s markets, interior design, DIY, performing electrical work, crafts, making art, creative writing, some very light gaming, board games, the theater, reading, antiquing/thrifting, and using my Instapot as often as I can. I'd love to start traveling (I have a tentative goal of seeing the Northern Lights in Finland next year), and honestly, plenty of other stuff and some that rotate in/out as the year goes on. I like to dabble until I find my niche.

Shared laughter and the ability to also share silence without discomfort are two of my biggest green flags in any potential relationship (romantic or otherwise).

Here is more about me as a person, who I am looking for, and the most important things you don't want to miss before messaging me.

Me (physically & aesthetically):

I'm 5'7", a size 8 (165-170 lbs) and working my way back down to a size 6. I've got a little more squish than I'd like but I'll shed it soon enough. I have a chest tattoo with plans for more, and two facial piercings. I've been on HRT for 5 years and am non-op. White/Hispanic. Soft hazel eyes. There's a gap in my smile that I've always been complimented on but have never liked much personally. I rely on beanies far too often when I don't want to deal with my hair, which is longer than shoulder length, brown with plenty of grey showing, and long-overdue for a trim. I may switch to wigs at some point but for now I wrestle with my hair and frizz/static daily. I have a growing collection of cardigans and will never have enough of them--and it's rare not to see me wearing one. I love my bodysuits and wearing strappy numbers. I will opt for shorts over pants any day of the week, but love dresses and skirts that fall just above the knee. I still wear band tees like I'm in college. I will always be a flats girl even though I love the brightly colored high-tops I own but never wear because I think they make me look too boyish. I'll never stop hunting for the perfect ankle boots. I prefer silver jewelry with garnets, rubies, or sapphires. I'm more into rings but would sport the right necklace if I ever found one that suited me.

Here are some photos of me in lieu of more words.

Me (sexually):

I'm a hedonist. I like trying new things. Overindulgence is my bread and butter. If you give me free reign of your body, I will run with it. Likewise, use my body as your playground. Tease me. Indulge me. I'd also consider myself a service top, but not exclusively so. I want us to have plenty of kinks in common and even discover new ones together. I want to memorize every curve, dimple, mole, freckle, scar, and tattoo on your body; I want to learn how your body works, what it responds to, and how to turn you into an absolute puddle. I'm firm but gentle; rough yet sensual. I take and give in equal measure. As a Domme I see myself as a guide, confidant, and teacher. I want to be the sincere smile and whispered praise that cover your arms in goosebumps--or the firm hand and witty barb that make you feel so utterly small or degraded in the most satisfying of ways. Everything I do is because I love you; and I'll love you until it hurts me more than it hurts you...

Things that give me life (must-haves):

• Making Out (like a couple of rabid teenagers)
• CNC
• Being Penetrated (fingers or a strap-on)
• Cock & Pussy Worship
• Discipline
• Hickies

Would be really nice to have:

• Humiliation and/or Degradation

Hard Limits:

• ABDL
• Bestiality
• Furries
• Scat/Blood/Vomit
• Micromanaging Your Life

While my default preference has usually been for "Mommy," I would absolutely let the right brat call me "Daddy". Hell, I'd expect her to be screaming it in my ear if she's the real deal... not even kidding. I don't let labels or words invalidate me, and so whether you're looking for a Mommy or Daddy Domme, I'm game for either. If you're my girl, it's all gravy, baby. <3

Relationship Goals:

• Unapologetically and proudly showing each other off however and whenever possible. PDA all day. Let me grab your ass at the grocery store, then give me head in the parking lot before we leave because I bought the ingredients to make your favorite meal.
• Challenging each other to go further, whether it's professionally, romantically, or sexually. Put your brattiness to use; sass me up. Give me a reason to get creative with your punishments. I won't need the help, but it's certainly more fun this way, don't you think?

You:

Physical attraction is important to me, but I'd pick undeniable compatibility, a great personality, phenomenal laugh, and an intoxicating voice over anything else. Age gaps are hot so younger women are A-OK with me and preferred.

Childfree. Single. Monogamous. Emotionally available. Non-smoker (cigarettes) and either sober or just not a heavy/daily drinker. You're emotionally intelligent and articulate. Bonus: also literate. Curious. Growth oriented. Self-aware and mindful. You know how to communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries in a productive way. You'll challenge me and push me to be better, but you won't push me away emotionally (i.e., you don't have an avoidant attachment style). You practice reciprocity. You're not uncomfortable with shared silence. You love dogs and don't have any 'prey' animals as pets. You understand and appreciate the power of therapy. You value all forms of self-expression. You're not perfect and don't expect perfection. You want to explore and grow with someone. You're not looking to be fixed, or to fix me.

If this sounds like you, and I sound like someone you'd genuinely want to know, understand, and could see yourself loving one day send me a DM and include the word "Echo" in the subject so I know you've read this. (That's my dog's name, btw.) Tell me about yourself. Include some photos. Make an effort like I have. Show me how excited you are to have finally found me, because I'll never stop showing you.