Hello!

I’m just a fat girl seeking a cute fat guy haha not required but ya 😂For starters here are some things about me to know and I think it would be a great start to a relationship if we had some in common:-

• I am a BBW or SBBW? Idk I don’t really pay attention to those terms or know what they mean or what weight they are supposed to be lol I don’t care. I like chubby and fat guys but it’s not a requirement! If a big girl is a dealbreaker here’s your sign to move on!
• I’m an atheist.
• I am staunchly childfree. I had a sterilization procedure about 3 years ago, best thing I ever did!
• I am classically liberal.
• I have 2 jobs and work really hard. One of my jobs is a pretty average normal profession, and the other is a creative pursuit.
• I rent and I understand if you rent. I’d like to own a home at some point in my life but idk if it can happen on my own. Maybe one day!
• I go to therapy. I have my own issues and shit we all have lol I value and prioritize therapy.
• Speaking of values, some of my values are: communication, authenticity, honesty, respect, independence, productivity, pursuing a dream, boundaries, empathy, self-awareness, and seeing into someone’s heart not their looks
• I’m monogamous. No poly, no open relationships, no situationships.
• I'm a non-smoker, non-drinker (casually once in a blue moon maybe), and no drugs (not even weed)

I like animals, both dogs and cats! I enjoy drawing and painting, nature and wildlife, movies and tv, and video games. I like to eat Asian food, go out and do silly things like escape rooms, rage rooms, cat cafes lol I love when my friend drags me to some niche craft shop. I’m not afraid to do things alone, I love an empty movie theater at an odd time of day. Just me and my candy and Diet Coke at the movies!

I’ve been single a LONG time, still dealing with some trauma and such, but I feel ready to put myself out there. However I have gotten so good at being single, a partner needs to add to my sense of peace to be worth it, because I don’t need anybody and I don’t rely on anybody. I pay all my bills, deal with all my own issues and flaws, and have my own fun and make my own fulfillment!

Kink & Me:

I have been in this lifestyle my entire life; I entered the public scene (local munches and playspaces) in my early 20's, but have largely fallen out of it. I was in an LTR with a dom for many years and have lived this lifestyle in real life. However, since then I have been single and have had many abusive experiences trying to meet someone kinky again. I have developed strong instincts and boundaries thanks to these experiences.

Here are some things about me regarding kink to consider:

• I am a sub, masochist, degradee, pet, etc - into all these and more. However I am not in any way, shape or form a dom or switch.
• I am not new nor inexperienced nor do I need teaching. I have been a sub irl and I am looking for an equal, someone to be my partner but build a beautiful bond with me through D/s as well.
• I am not poly.
• I am not bisexual.
• I am not a switch.
• I am not seeking casual kink or pick-up play.
• I am 100% single and seek someone who is 100% single.
• I have many "extreme" kinks, I don't feel the need to list them all out and it would take too long. I would greatly appreciate being treated like a human being first, kinkster second. I would like to learn about you as a person first too :)
• My limits are ever-evolving and dependent upon the trust and depth of the relationship. The more trust there is, the more my limits begin to lift and new paths open up.
• I view kink as simply a means to a very deep bond and connection. Yes I got off on kink, but thats not my goal. My goal is to develop a meaningful bond with another person. This bond requires chemistry, connection, communication, time, effort, warmth, affection, and more.
• For the above reason, I am interested in just developing the foundation of a connection and bond with someone for a while first. Starting vanilla, we can introduce a little kink here and there as we're comfortable, then more, then I typically begin a D/s dynamic, and after many years of a partnership. there is potential for M/s. However, there is no requirement on my end to be defined any certain way and everyone defines these things differently. What matters to me is that we are having fun, growing closer together, talking about our desires, honesty, commitment, and having fun..

I would like to chat over text and then over the phone with someone before meeting up in a public place. I would greatly appreciate being invited on a date :) I know everyone approaches this differently and it can be annoying for some people to just chat before meeting up, so I’m putting it out there now. I want to feel comfortable that a date is going to go well by talking for a while first.