I've done my fair share of exploring the London kink scene and found places I like, kinks I enjoy, and great friendships too. This post is for meaningful connections, with the potential to lead to long-term relationship, if we click that way. For me, kink is about connection, about creating that special movement between the two of us within the scene. I mostly keep kink to scene-only context and have varied other tastes in life otherwise. (fitness, hiking, reading non-fiction, latin-american partner dancing, museums, theatre, and many more)

Physically, I'd describe myself as quite attractive. I’m a white European immigrant to the UK from a warm/beautiful seaside Slavic country, 193cm/6'4” tall, gym fit with trimmed stubble. Personality-wise, I’m more on the nerdy/creative side (professional software engineer), but also active, open-minded, and adventurous.

Sexually, I believe, especially when it comes to BDSM, the mental aspect is just as important and my kinks reflect as such. I enjoy all the physical staples such as spanking, bruising, kissing, impact play, forced orgasms, restraints, toys, shibari (I love love rigging!!!), etc. but I also love the “psychological” aspect too such as dirty talk, praise/humiliation, discipline, orgasm control, etc. Aftercare is also a huge aspect, and I'm a huge sucker for pillow talk and cuddling to sleep; heck I'll even make you hot chocolate or tea after :).

I’m generally attracted to active, taller, competent women who also have a carrying side to them. Goofiness is a huge bonus :).

If any of this interests you, send me a message and include at least some basic details (or have them on your profile) such as your age, physical description, kinks, willingness to share pics, and what piqued your interest.

To set communication expectations I’m heavily inspired by Cal Newport's work/books, and am a “bad” texter on purpose..think 20th-century letters not quick one-line IMs. I don’t have most social media, and even those I have (Reddit/Fetlife) I use sporadically at best, or treat like email.