Hello!

So to start, I'm not comfortable plastering my face all over reddit. However, if you find my post (or me) interesting, initiate a conversation with me and we can share SFW pictures/verify to establish mutual attraction. I don't think looks are everything but I know it's important to some degree and as such I am willing to share pictures right off the bat if you are too!

I enjoy a whole host of kinks, and love experimenting when it comes to things I haven't yet tried. A hard line for me, however, is blood and humiliation or degredation in any form (like you can use me without actively insulting me!!). I know this will probably disinterest some of you and if that's your thing, do you, I'm just not the one for it. I am not an outlet for your anger or dissatisfaction, I am a kind, loving, man who wants nothing more than to bring joy and uplift the people I am close to. I want the same from you! Be kind to me, and treat me with the same love and respect I offer to you. I'm also not a fan of causing/receiving real harm or extreme pain, I want to love you and be loved by you!

I'm 6'3" and over 200lbs. I love resistance training and have been at it consistently for nearly a decade now. Bit of a "dad bod" right now cause it's cold and being lean while it's cold absolutely sucks! I'm well educated, sweet, funny, attractive, capable, and emotionally intelligent. I work in a STEM field but also have a deep love and appreciation for philosophy, art, and discussing (not arguing!) politics. I cook amazingly well and love hosting dinner parties with my friends. I'm well traveled and have lived in multiple countries. I have brown skin, tattoos, slightly gauged ears, and a nose ring (not a septum) as well as having long, natural, black, curly hair that comes down just past my shoulders. I like to keep my day-to-day fairly routine and splurge on vacations instead. I travel internationally at least once a year since much of my family and close friends live in other countries.

On a typical day - I wake up early (~6am), walk my dog for 30min, shower, make coffee, and either head to the gym or work depending on what I need to get done that day. When I get home from work I take the dog out again, feed him and myself, and then snuggle up with him to watch my shows followed by another walk before bedtime. I would really like to add a dance class (Salsa or Argentine Tango) once or twice a week to this but I also feel guilty leaving my dog alone so that will have to wait until I have more time available to me.

I know that might sound pretty boring but it's real. I'm also 420 friendly and you would have to be too. I experimented a lot in my younger years but now I barely even drink alcohol. Nothing against it, I just don't enjoy it like I did when I was younger and much prefer the lack of hangover that weed provides haha.

Traditionally, I have only dated non-monogamously. I enjoy being free to be queer (I'm bi) as well as allowing room for flirtatious fun that doesn't lead anywhere without feeling guilty or betraying my partners trust. This may be a non-starter for many of you and that's ok! I'm not on the far side of the spectrum, relationship anarchy sounds like a living hell to me personally. I want a partnership built on love, trust, and commitment. Very much hierarchical where we take priority in each other's lives. I'm also snipped, not because I dislike children but because I think having children is an immense responsibility and one that I know I am not ready for! (Not sure if I ever will be tbh)

If any of this sounds appealing to you, shoot me message! But please do more than just say "hi", tell me about yourself and what you found appealing at the bare minimum. Thank you 🫶🏾