Okay let's get this right out of the way:

I am 25 AFAB and I identify as non binary. I use they them pronouns and want to get into touch with who I am sexually by getting myself out there in a safe, respected manner.

First and foremost I am extremely and I mean extremely shy. I'm often a well reserved person that likes to keep to themselves and absolutely hates small talk. Whenever I'm out in public I'm the type that puts my headphones on and tries to ignore the world around me. I get anxious speaking to others and often find it easier to speak online.

Butttt with all due respect, wanting to have relationship with great sex (amongst other things on top) I cannot do online. Whilst I'm open to starting it online, chatting and getting to know one another, I am not open to keeping it solely online.

Which brings me to the next thing: A little bit about what I look like. I'm 5'6", curvy with a bit of extra weight around the thighs, stomach and breasts and ass. I wear glasses and keep my hair short (trying to come to terms with growing it out but shits thick and curly 🥴) I'm not your classic red head more so on the auburn side with freckles all over my body and brown eyes to go wirh it.

Now we get to the part that I'm sure many of y'all are dying to read and why I'm making this post to begin with:

I have had very few sexual encounters in my life due to my own past traumas to which I want to take control over instead of it controlling me. I have been hyper sexual for as long as I can remember and really have only come to terms with the things that really get me going.

I'll get it out there, yes I am a sub. So much so that I like to say I want a dom who is willing to not only treat me like a princess for the after care but who also can degrade me in bed. In the bedroom I am your sex toy, your cum bucket (however you want view that is up to you). Use me, please me, but take care of me afterwards.

Worship my body in and out of the bedroom. Train me, edge me, growl in my ear, spank me, choke me, fucking dominate me. Chase me around our space and when you catch me, don't let me go. Atta girl when I do something that pleases you, walk me through it. Fuck me until my mind goes hazy and my body is limp and drool leaves my mouth.

Praise me when you train me. Fuck nothing is more hotter than hearing someone give me praise for making them feel so good. Hell, nothing is hotter than fucking me to the brink of tears and mocking me. God the list could go on but I'm working with limited attention 😌

With that being said I must advocate and clarify that with everything that happens in the bedroom, these are my deal breakers:

No adequate aftercare. After everything that's been done in the bedroom and you think it's okay to just get up and go? Nah fam. Take care of me, praise me for how good I was. Cuddle me, take care of me. Shit, I'm so independent in my own life when I get home I would love for someone to just look after me.

Ghosting / Not taking things seriously: listen I'm so over the whole going back and forth and then suddenly nothing. Crickets. Like we hit it off and then boom nothing. C'mon now at least be respectful enough to say hey, I don't think this is working out. I'm not gonna sit here and beg for your attention let alone beg for the bare minimum.

Slow burn, not racing til the the finish line: I mentioned trauma, yes I have trauma and yes I am asking for someone who is mature and patient enough to wait. Not someone who's looking for a good time and expecting everything that I just wrote to come out on the first time we speak. Sex is extremely intimate and I am looking for something short term/casual to eventually if we click and the vibes (especially the sex), attraction etc to turn into something long term.

And last but not least the things that get me going and what I'm hella attracted to:

Deep voice ugh something about a lower register gets me humming.

Tattoos and piercings. god I find tattoos so fucking attractive bonus points if you dress alternative. Like not 2008 emo (although fuck that shits still hot) but something along those lines

In terms of body type, I don't mind someone who has a little chub here or there and also don't mind if they're extremely athletic. But what I do mind is are you able to pick me up and fuck me senseless against a wall? Or throw me over your shoulder while you march us to the bed? Like sir, I'm well over 200, please make sure you can carry me 🙃

All in all if you've made it to the end of this post and you're still interested (and or if you've seen my last post when I was 24 and are reading this post) then yes I welcome your messages. I hope to chat soon 😘