Trade offer! I receive: power and worship. You receive: free leadership and life coaching.

As the title suggests: I'm grey-asexual and romantically spoken-for, but I'm looking for some submissive friends to chat with and help out. I'm a natural leader and sadism is my love language, so I want to reach out to people who will appreciate those qualities.

Some quick facts about me:

• Med student, aspiring neurosurgeon
• Rationalist & transhumanist
• Atheist (except for belief in myself ;)
• Neurodivergent, disabled
• Painter & novelist
• Hobbies: tailoring, lock-picking, 3D puzzles, Japanese calligraphy
• INTJ

My accolades as a dominant, according to my husband & current sub:

• Full of useful advice
• Always willing to help
• A leader by example
• Skilled and knowledgeable in kink safety
• Fair, cooperative, and understanding

My ideal friend will be:

• Curious (you enjoy intellectual conversation and having things explained to you)
• Open-minded (you're willing to listen to unusual ideas and capable of admitting it if you're wrong)
• Humble (you acknowledge and appreciate that I am better than you)
• Obedient (no brats)
• Always striving to improve (my biggest pet-peeve is a person who wallows in their misery instead of trying to make things better)
• Self-aware, honest, and communicative (you're able to explain your feelings and thoughts in detail; a history with DBT is a bonus)

Kinks I like:

• Deification (my favorite title, by far, is 'God')
• Foot/hand worship (yes, I'm willing to send pictures)
• Impact play (beating, whipping, etc.)
• Shibari
• Training, conditioning
• Humiliation and degradation
• Breath play (suffocation, strangulation)
• CNC/rape play
• Blood, knives, scarification
• Snuff (autoassasinophiliacs, hit me up <3)

Since I'm asexual, I don't get off on any of these things (yes, even CNC; it's about power rather than sex), but I don't mind if you get off on them. There is just one exception: impact play. It's not a requirement, but I very much prefer non-sexual masochists. If your reason for masochism is something like showing your devotion, or receiving marks, or anything else, let me know; I'll appreciate it.

Limits:

• No age-regression, no calling me "daddy" or any variant of such, no incest dynamics.
• I do not want 'nudes' and will not provide any.
• I tend to avoid punishments, as they're psychologically harmful and create learned helplessness rather than enforcing the target behavior. My style of conditioning is based on positive reinforcement of each baby-step in the right direction. However, this is not a hard limit, and I'm willing to negotiate.
• I generally dislike fantasy fiction, video games, and D&D. Nothing wrong with liking them, but if those are your main interests, we probably won't get on too well.

I'm available to text for about 2-4 hours per day, on average, but I'm also quite busy; don't expect immediate replies.

Looking forward to meeting you!