I post here maybe once a year, when the longings are deeper than usual. As I am aging, I do crave to once more experience the depth of shared vulnerabilities, a partnership marked by a deep, genuine intellectual and emotional connection, two people putting in the effort at honest communication to get to a point where they are both willing to lose themselves in each other. It takes communicative labor and intentionality to get there, and while I am always hopeful for unexpected encounters, at times I doubt that people are still able to invest deeply in each other, even if the outcome is uncertain.
I believe that bdsm is above all an invitation to be open with each other from the very beginning. Beyond basic dispositions, I do not believe in fixed categories: Dom, sub, etc. -- what two people might become to and for each other is primarily the product of communication, honesty, and care. And while physical things are important, the deep intimacies often reside in the seemingly small gestures: writing notes; voice messages; reading to each other; going on a walk on a crisp fall day, your hand in mine, placed together in my warm coat pocket.
If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to reach out. About myself: wm, European, tall, hwp, dark hair, some facial hair. Overeducated, introverted and melancholy, prone to lose myself in books. You can find some additional information about me in my post-history.
Some things that are important to me: I am looking for IRL, so please reach out only if you are in MD, South-Central PA, or the DMV more generally. DMs only; chat is disabled.
Thank you.
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