Hello Stranger!

Finding someone who matches our needs in complicated enough as is. We are all beings in transition, and finding someone whose journey and destination complement ours. I am therefore painfully aware that, to reach my post, you must have scrolled through dozens of others. I believe the search for a partner in this world requires a lot of work, communication and trust, and thus I have written this post with earnest effort into letting know who I am, what I'm seeking and what I hope to develop.

There is a certain contradiction between my positions as a person, and my role as a Dom. Far from rejecting them, I have come to accept them as part of the complexity every person contains, and as proof that there is power and beauty to be drawn even from the darkest places. It is my hope my ad reflects that.

Who I am

Before going into the kinky stuff, I'd like to share the "monotonous", the mundane and observeable. All attraction, at some point, needs to be mental, so it is essential to match on a personal level to make the rest flourish.

I am 30 years of age and, while currently based in Spain, I was born and raised in Mexico, and have also lived in the Canary Islands and Amsterdam (where I studied for a year). While originally a corporate lawyer (and truth be told, decently good at it), I found that life to be unfulfilling and soulcrushing; therefore I'm trying to turn that into a career into humanitarian aid focused on Aid for Development. My goal in life, in the end, is to go to bed with a clear conscience and believing I am contributing to making the world a better place, something that my former job failed to provide.

My interests are diverse: I am fascinated by history to the point I actually considered becoming a historian (and that my favorite books tend to either be historical chronicles or are deeply rooted in important historical events), but I am also highly curious and inquisitive, and have a tendency to read on one subject and drift of into another one -the wikipedia "Random" button was one of my best friends for the longest time. I am also very passionate about grafitti, street art and the value of public space. I collect maps of subway systems and have always found the shape the lines public transportation take to be a fascinating x-ray into the life of any city or town. I have taken courses in art history, speak fluent Spanish and English and am currently trying to learn French and Italian.

I consider myself driven, ambitious and patient, while also being prone to the same fears and insecurities we all face at different times in our lives. I try to be in tune with my emotions and to make them work for me. I specially love and require empathy and understanding from my partners -while chemistry is mighty important, attitude and personality are much more so. Chemistry, in the end, is not what keeps you awake at night taking care of your partner, commitment and attitude are. Oh, also, I LOVE animals. Sending me cute animal vids is a surefire way to get my heart.

My hobbies include reading, writing, wall-climbing, taking long walks without any specific destination, videogames and biking. Music plays a major part in my life, and although my lack of dexterity has prevented me from learning any instruments so far, I enjoy hearing almost all kinds of music and think sharing songs we like is a great way to know of each other. I specially enjoy rap, techno, afrobeats, folkloric music and jazz, and would adore someone to go to festivals and concerts with. I have also developed great pleasure in cooking (specially for other people) and have been told I make a great pesto; the social aspect of cooking is a massive part of Mexican culture, and one that has not been lost on me

Appearance wise, I am on the shorter end, although I have been told I give a "taller person vibe" and I have been described as having a great backside. Brown hair, black eyes, some tattoos and just one piercing, with more on the way. I have been described as oddly similar to Roberto Benigni, if that helps at all (or even if it doesn't. We all have a type!)

Finally on this point, I have to say I'm very VERY left leaning. I do not believe in inequalities, hate of kinds of bigotry and oppresions and dread any signs of racism, sexism, transphobia or any other discourse that relies on making other group of people less. I can deal with differences in thought and am generally open to most ideas, but there are a few I will not be able to tolerate.

The Dom

Now, lets get into the more interesting side and what drives us here: who I am as a Dom.

I started my journey into BDSM around 13 years ago. I have always preferred the dominant side of the equation and while I have experimented with being sub (and may even be VERY slightly switch, with the right person), I find the Dom role to fit me better.My Dom style is varied and embraces both the harsh side and the tender intimacy of aftercare and genuine concern for my sub. I see submission as a gift, do not consider myself entitled to anyone and greatly value and appreciate the trust my sub puts in me.

I am someone who is 100% willing to choke you and tie you up while feeding you my fingers, but also someone who will see you come home from work or uni after a rough day and make you your favorite dish while you relax watching your series. I require, ask and hope my sub has trust in me not to only obey and listen to orders, but to tell me when she is not in the proper place to do so. To submit requires safety, care and concern, all of which I strive to provide

My kinks include, but are not limited to, verbal humiliation and degradation, subtle acts of dominance, TPE, CNC, praise, aftercare, teasing, orgasm control and deniel, remote-controlled toys, public play, sexual objectification, tasks and rules, schedule control, clothing control, subtle acts of dominance, amongs others. Ideally, my sub would be someone with a long list of kinks and practices to explore. I find the mutual discovery of new things to be one of the most fun aspects of any dynamic.I enjoy the roles to leave the bedroom and would love for something to eventually evolve into a 24/7 (with the obvious limitations a professional/academic life might entail), though obviously this would take the time any relationship needs to develop.

I am keenly aware my kinks and my political, ethical and professional beliefs clash and are in contradictions. As I have stated, I do not find these an issue (although at some point I did), and now see them as an expression of my deeper belief in equality: the only reason I can enjoy what I do is because you allow me to. The power, ultimately, is yours, and thus any extent I take things to relies solely on your enjoyment. If my sub does not have fun, neither do I.
Limits include the usual stuff: minors, animals, excesive sadism and non-ethical poligamy (I myself am monogamous, although do not demand you to be as long as we all are informed).

The sub

And so, finally, we get to the star of the show and the person this is all all about (also, a way to reduce the incredible number of "I"s this post had). That's right YOU.

Ideally, you are 20-35 years of age, although flexibility is not an issue on this point provided you are an adult. Hopefully you have some experience and more or less already know what you like. Curiosity is, of course, appreciated and it would be unrealistic of me to expect you to have everything set on stone, so feeling free to explore yourself is also important for me.

As "I" currently reside in Spain, someone within continental Europe would be ideal, but not necessarily required as long as we can make timezones work. Communication is extremely important to me; there is no expectation of you being glued to your phone at all hours and to reply within a nanosecond, but having a frequent channel is essential, specially online. I have no issue whatsoever with verifying my identity, and would appreciate neither do you after some time.

While this can be born online, and do not expect it to become a physical thing in a matter of days, I do want it to eventually evolve to something in person. Being able to visit and meet each other, if needed, thus needs to be realistic (either for me or for you) in a reasonable amount of time (18-24 monthish). This might severely limit the possibilities, but I find physical presence to be the most enjoyable part of any dynamic.

The farewell

This post became way longer than expected. I put some genuine effort into it and while I'll never be 100% satisfied with it, I expect it to show the kind of dedication I put into stuff. If this speaks to you in any level, please contact me, I will be glad to hear of you.