I'm a 39 year old, agender trans guy (they/he) living in the northwest UK.

I would love to find a Dom to spoil me. Someone who I can give up control to for a while and just exist. Ideally looking for an experienced Dom aged 40-50ish. I do have a type (basically if you look like you'd fit in at a metal gig, especially long hair and a beard, tattoos and piercings), but that's not necessarily a top priority.

I am a switch, usually leaning more to the Dom side, and am experiencing and active on that side of things. But I haven't had a Dom myself for a good few years now due to some previous bad experiences. In the past year I have started to explore that side of myself again, and now feel ready to try again.

I am polyamorous and have a couple of partners (including an anchor partner) who I am very happy with. I am open to a purely kink dynamic, but would like a relationship as well if that's a possibility.

Sub me: Let me preface this by being clear that submission for me is not necessarily always sexual, but also a way to get out of my own head when I'm feeling stressed or anxious. However I do also enjoy a sexual element to it if the attraction is there. I am most interested in rope bondage, impact play, and sensation play. I am curious to try pet play, and am open to exploring some of my harder kinks (e.g. med fet, knife play, omo/watersports, primal/cnc) once trust has been established. I would also like it if I could be held accountable for completing more every day kinds of tasks, such as exercising, doing my cleaning etc. Basically need the motivation of being held accountable to overcome the adhd. My hard limits are scat, age play, permanent marks, misgendering/detrans/forced fem, and humiliation/degradation in a mean way (happy to explain what I mean by that).

Vanilla Me: I'm a socially awkward, neurospicy (AuDHD), introverted geek, with a love of most things fantasy. Other special interests outside of these and kink tend to vary (the joys of AuDHD). I have a horse and a dog who are my babies. Thanks to them I spend a lot of my free time outdoors. I'm one of those weirdos who genuinely enjoy hiking. If I am stuck inside my go to is Netflix and attempts at being creative (art, crafting). Originally from Germany, and also lived in the States (MN) for a few years before moving to the UK. I work in Information Security in the legal sector. Socialist so anyone who votes tory (or otherwise right wing) need not apply. TERFs, SWERFs and cops fuck off.

A brief physical description 5'10" (178cm), curly hair, mohawk (usually died red or purple), grey eyes. I'm a bit pudgy but recently started working on that (a Dom who is into fitness and would encourage me with this would be a huge bonus). I have been on testosterone since November 23, but have not had top surgery yet. I am happy to send pictures after chatting for a while.

If it gets past the online and vibe check stages I can host if need be. I can't travel too far as I don't currently have a car (and dog sitters are expensive).