Apapacho is a word in Nahuatl that means "to caress with the soul" In essence, a hug that goes beyond the physical.

The quest for a person whose values and goals match is can be gruelling and disheartening. And yet we keep on trying hoping to find that special someone. My search has had its ups and downs, and I am once again hoping to find my perfect sub.

I hope you take the time to read this, and, if it speaks to you, get you to reach out.

The Person

I believe the best dynamics are those born out of genuine chemistry and connection. Do not get me wrong, I feel as attracted to a cute girl as any other person, but to me that attraction is only enhanced when the personality, interests and mind connect. As such, I'd rather open up with who I am before entering into the kinkier side of things.

I am a 30-year-old former corporate lawyer from Mexico now turning his life around in Madrid to humanitarian work (focused on asylum seekers both in their legal status and in their integration). Prior to this I studied law in Mexico and an LLM in Amsterdam, and have taken courses in art history.Personality wise, I consider myself, meticulous, patient, driven, ambitious and (much to the surprise of my friends and former interns), introverted. I am also curious and inquisitive, I like questioning the reason behind everything (including myself) and to learn as much as possible. I speak fluent Spanish and English (I hope), and am currently learning Italian and French.

If I had to choose subjects I'm specially passionate about, I'd have to say urban culture and grafitti are high up there, although I generally try to be at least a bit informed in as many subjects as possible.I enjoy reading about most subjects and have a tendency to start reading on (say), an interview with a former Spanish football player and end up researching where to buy Homage to Catalonia by Orwell because the interview briefly mentioned it being found in the room.

Aside from reading, I am a fairly active person. I excersise regularly, enjoy indoor wall climbing (and have given some introductory classes) and, as every person who has had the pleasure of spending some time in the Netherlands, absolutely adore the freedom that moving around in a bike provides. I also enjoy videogames, cartoons, cooking (specially for others. The social aspect of lunch is essential in Mexican culture) and walking around aimlessly. Music also play a huge role in my life, so if you like sharing songs as a love language, do hit me up.

Physically I'm on the shorter side, although I have been told I give a "taller person vibe" and I have been described as having a great backside. Brown hair, black eyes, some tattoos and just one piercing, with more on the way. I have been described as oddly similar to Roberto Benigni, if that helps at all (or even if it doesn't. We all have a type!)

I am a highly sentimental person, and my feelings can be very intense (for better and worse). This has made be a fiercely loyal person, but also one that yearns for intimacy and vulnerability.

Finally on this point, I have to say I'm very VERY left leaning. I do not believe in inequalities, hate of kinds of bigotry and oppresions and dread any signs of racism, sexism, transphobia or any other discourse that relies on making other group of people less. I can deal with differences in thought and am generally open to most ideas, but there are a few I will not be able to tolerate.

The Dom

Ok, now lets get into the meaty side of the dish (sorry if you are vegan. In that case, replace for...I don't know. Zucchini? Potatoes? I'm good cooking potatoes).

I started my journey into BDSM around 13 years ago. I have always preferred the dominant side of the equation and while I have experimented with being sub (and may even be VERY slightly switch, with the right person), I find the Dom role to fit me better. My Dom style is varied and embraces both the harsh side and the tender intimacy of aftercare and genuine concern for my sub. I see submission as a gift, do not consider myself entitle to anyone and greatly value and appreciate the trust my sub puts in me. I am, therefore, someone who is 100% willing to choke you and tie you up while feeding you my fingers, but also someone who will see you come home from work or uni after a rough day and make you your favorite dish while you relax watching your series. Maybe I can also make you a margarita, just to keep up with the Mexican theme.

My kinks include, but are not limited to, verbal humiliation and degradation, subtle acts of dominance, TPE, CNC, praise, aftercare, teasing, orgasm control and deniel, remote-controlled toys, public play and sexual objectification, tasks and rules, protocol training, amongs others. Many of my favorite practices conflict with deeper political and moral positions, so clear distinction between play and reality is important. Ideally, my sub would be someone with a long list of kinks and practices to explore. I find the mutual discovery of new things to be one of the most fun aspects of any dynamic.I enjoy the roles to leave the bedroom and would love for something to eventually evolve into a 24/7 (with the obvious limitations a professional/academic life might entail), though obviously this would take the time any relationship needs to develop.

Limits include the usual stuff: minors, animals, excesive sadism and non-ethical poligamy (I myself am monogamous, although do not demand you to be as long as we all are informed).

The sub

And so, finally, we get to the star of the show and the person this is all all about (also, a way to reduce the incredible number of "I"s this post had). That's right YOU.

Ideally, you are 22-35 years of age, although flexibility is not an issue on this point provided you are an adult. Hopefully you have some experience and more or less already know what you like. Curiosity is, of course, appreciated and it would be unrealistic of me to expect you to have everything set on stone, so feeling free to explore yourself is also important for me.

As "I" currently reside in Spain, someone within continental Europe would be ideal, but not necessarily required as long as we can make timezones work. Communication is extremely important to me; there is no expectation of you being glued to your phone at all hours and to reply within a nanosecond, but having a frequent channel is essential, specially online (and I have no issue whatsoever with verifying my identity).

While this can be born online, and do not expect it to become a physical thing in a matter of days, I do want it to eventually evolve to something in person. Relocation, if needed, thus needs to be realistic (either for me or for you) is a reasonable amount of time. This might severely limit the possibilities, but I find physical presence to be the most enjoyable part of any dynamic.

The farewell

This post became way longer than expected. I put some genuine effort into it and while I'll never be 100% satisfied with it, I expect it to show the kind of dedication I put into stuff. If this speaks to you in any level, please contact me, I will be glad to hear of you.