That's pretty much why you're here, right? You have needs, that you've been told are wrong. But they haunt you, and you find yourself flipping through the personals wondering what it would be like. In my particular case, assuming we find a connection and like each other's jib construction, we talk, and develop a friendship, all the while discussing what the sexual environment would be like, both having input, and allowing your need for your needs to be "forced to happen" to play a role in what we discuss. Then after time, we meet. If you haven't ghosted the idea by then, the need is strong, and you cautiously dip your toe in the water, then your foot.

Then we reach a place where you are eager to return home, because the mask you wear to the world crumbles when you enter, ready to unleash your need. Over time that freedom will extend to being within 5 feet of me, and we will sit at dinner or out dancing, or at a charity event, and you will be aching inside to drop the act... through coded speech you know what happens when we're alone again, how much I desire you. You see a girl eyeing me and you give her a knowing look, saying "yes, he's with me, and if you watch you'll see my head dip down in his lap as we drive out of the parking lot."

I have a few posts here, you can click on my history to find more about me and my likes. I'm roughly on year 10 of a 15 year plan, and the success part is rolling in. I appreciate the BDSM community because I've dated (and once was married to!) dishonest people, pretending to be what they thought I liked; I appreciate that raw core of trust that begins the conversation here.

So my stone planters and garden and fruit trees need gentle hands to tend them. I seek timid cooks who want great resources to attempt great dishes. Pet girls welcome. I seek is someone who needs their deep, hidden desire filled, who finds a bond with me so great that being kind and giving to me... service, if you will... becomes part of the ache. And I would like to repay you with feeling you belong.

So Happy Valentine's Day, all. Happy to chat or by message.