Hello! I am going to cut right to the chase – I am looking for someone to connect with and do kinky things with. To do this sort of thing, I really need to feel a personal connection. I’m looking for someone who is good at communicating and wants to build intimacy. I’m not looking to plug somebody into a pre-existing fantasy and then swap them out with someone, or something, else later on. The mind is a wonderful thing, I want to get to know yours.

Who am I?

I’m a 24 year old guy in the UK. I’m a Software Engineer by trade, I enjoy my job a lot and I’m often described as an industrious person. When I’m not working, I am reading, learning about the world, playing games with friends, keeping fit, hanging out with friends, playing video games, aimlessly pacing around the room listening to music...

I also like board games (only if I win), baking (if I get to eat) and tending to my small but growing plant collection (only one spontaneous death so far). Occasionally I hike and camp in the great outdoors and do city getaways, unfortunately life has responsibilities, so this is not something I get to do every weekend.

I am a positive, curious and open-minded person. Of course I also think I am hilarious and charming but I think these traits define me much more.

edit: oh in case it matters, I am 6'2", white, short brown hair, majestic eyebrows, dark brown eyes, slim/toned build and a strong nose on me.

What am I looking for?

I’m looking to build a dynamic where I fill the dominant role, I can switch for the right person so if you have a switchy side I’d still like to talk to you! I am emotionally available and open to a romantic relationship, but an intimate d/s dynamic will also satisfy me.

I am not looking for something that is exclusively online. A great deal of the initial stages may have to be online, for logistics, privacy and safety (this won’t be something I rush you on) – but if there is no hope of meeting in person, then I am not interested. For that reason, I am mostly looking for fellow Brits and/or Europeans.

The most important thing?

I've learnt that by far the most important thing to make this work is good communication, this normally involves emotional intelligence and honesty. No, you don’t need to be on your phone 24/7, we both have lives. You do however need to be able to hold a conversation, set aside quality time, be in touch with yourself, etc.

You?

As mentioned, I am looking for someone that I can bond with, as such an ideal age range is 20-32. If you’re outside of that age range, I am probably in a different stage of life to you, but of course there are exceptions so feel free to say hi anyway. If you’re older than me you might be thinking “hm, a 24 year old?”, there’s nothing I can do to help with that, I can only say I have dated (and done d/s) at the top of this age range in the past and it wasn’t a problem at all.

I’m attracted to intelligent, happy and healthy people who find joy in life - if you can have fun grocery shopping, we will get along.

I’m not looking to “fix” a “broken” person, nor am I looking for some sort of “project” or to “make someone whole”. That’s not to say you must be perfect and have all your ducks in a row (and I’m more than willing to help you work on stuff), but I am looking to compliment, and be complimented by, a complete individual.

Someone with at least a bit of BDSM experience would be ideal, at the very least know enough to know what you don't know, and be prepared to learn.

Kinks? Limits?

My kinks are very broad and I’m into a lot of different things, what can I say, I like creative freedom! I’m not going to sound off a big list of kinks, sometimes I am into x, other times I am into y.

Fundamentals that I enjoy are:

• Bondage/restraint – including rope, gags, blindfolds, collars.

• Power exchange – ownership, service, rules, discipline.

• Psychological play – humiliation, degradation, status play (varies on the person - I want to know what makes you tick).

• Sadism – mostly various forms of impact play.

Some things I don’t like: scat, vomit, blood.

If you're not interested in everything here don't worry, you don't need to be interested in everything I am.

As a dominant I tend to have high standards, I see it as my job to help you reach them, not crush you with them. If you’re an open-minded experimentalist then we’ll probably get along even if you won’t want to do all of this right off the bat – that’s totally ok and normal.

I also don't see aftercare as a chore - it's something I very much enjoy doing and is a big part of the intimacy for me.

Your message

Don’t stress your initial message, I’m not too bothered as long as the conversation afterwards is good. I’m very much a conversationalist, I want to learn about you and I want you to be curious about me. If you’re stuck, tell me what you liked about my post, tell me about you, your hobbies, your interest or your kinks. Feel free to skip the small talk, but equally, do small talk if you like, I really don’t mind. Oh and, bonus points if you’re up for exchanging audio clips – I get tired of typing sometimes.

Looking forward to chatting with you!