This post will be directed towards subby ladies, ideally between ages 20-30 or so, that are looking to build something serious with a guy that's got solid experience in power-exchange dynamics. If you crave the psychological side of D/s as much as the physical, but also hope for D-Type that you can grow with as a person, keep reading!
About myself as a person: I am 30 years old, with the last decade of my life being largely spent accomplishing personal, professional, and financial goals aimed towards making my future as stable and stress-free as is reasonably possible. I've always placed a high-priority on personal-finance as a building block towards long-term freedom, and I'm proud to say that I made it through college debt-free, and I'm now a homeowner with a very modest mortgage.
I currently work in quality-control on a pretty recognizable product, and I definitely spend way too many hours each week working, with 11-12 hour shifts 6 or 7 days a week not out of the ordinary. I supervise a ridiculously diverse team of about 25 people, with most shifts being chaotic and stressful. My job keeps the bills paid, though, and allows me to live a reasonably comfortable life outside of the place.
Physically, I'm about just over 6 feet tall barefoot, (most insist I'm taller), with a solid frame and wide shoulders. I shave my head several times a week with a razor, and I've got an auburn-ish full beard. My pale blue eyes tend to get the most compliments.
When I'm not at work, (and not doing chores around the house), I tend to spend a lot of my free time working on a podcast that I share with a lifelong buddy of mine. Between researching, recording, and editing, I can always find something to be working on for the show. Editing the podcast is, however, the most technically savvy thing about me, as I've always preferred tools to computers and books to smartphones. I also enjoy painting in various forms or fashions, and I keep part of my home set up as a mini-studio whatever various paint projects come up.
Beyond all that, I'm known for my love of sports, enjoyment of reading, and my ability to always find the right board game for whatever group or mood. I'm also the informal financial-guru for my close friends and family, and I'm the guy at work that's always called-upon when the team needs a carefully-written email sent, or a crazy person needs to be calmed-down. I'm also known for my quick-wit and dry sense of humor that tends to not turn off, even at work. I always end up in leadership roles, whether formal or informal, and I try to use active-listening and my basic emotional-intelligence in everything I do so that the people around me end up in the best possible positions during whatever situation.
In a partner, I'm looking for someone that can compliment some of the things that make me who I am, and who can not only add-to and improve my life, but also be someone that can help me be a better person throughout it all. I've had plenty of relationships in the past, both vanilla ones and those with a kinky dynamic in place, but I have yet to find the right person that can both take me for who I am, but also push me to grow in the directions I need.
I value service-oriented submission the most from partners because I'm a giver myself, and even in a heavily kinky dynamic, I feel like partners must be there to take care of each other. I won't dive terribly deep into bedroom kinks on this post, but I'm into and interested in lots of different BDSM elements in the bedroom, and I've never felt more confident and comfortable with myself than I have dominating the action in bed. Obviously there's tons more that goes into that, but I always take limits and safewords seriously, (and expect my partner to do the same), and I'm definitely not interested in rushing into anything immediate with anyone, either.
In my dream world, my partner is also my submissive, my closest friend, and eventually my wife. While tradional-gender-roles tend to be taboo these days, I've always been most compatible with girls that tend to enjoy the idea of them and want to work towards something more along the lines of the 1950s lifestyle. Obviously, I'm not above doing anything around the house myself if it needs to get done, but I'll never be a chef in the kitchen or great at grocery-shopping either.
Which brings me to my small list of requirements for a partner. First, and probably most important, I'm looking for a partner that's at least reasonably health-conscious. I'll never pretend to be anywhere near perfect in this regard myself, but I need a partner that prioritizes healthy eating and a decent amount of activity. If 'BBW' is a term you'd use to describe yourself, we probably won't be a good fit. Beyond that, I'm essentially the antithesis of an idealist when it comes to my view of the world, so my partner will at least have to be respectful of how I think, even if they don't always agree. I'm much more spiritual than religious, and my political viewpoints, (if I really have any), tend to lean independent and libertarian moreso than any other direction. I've been through a lot in my life and know what it's like to have everything wiped away in the blink of an eye and rebuild from nothing, so my experiences as an adult have certainly shaped both my perspective on life and my value system. I don't fit into any particular mold or group, I'm just myself. I try not to dwell on the viewpoints of others, I just do what I can to help when I can.
If you've made it this far and haven't gotten bored, and are still interested in getting to know me more, please send me a chat or a message! I've posted here before and had lots of conversations with lots of interesting ladies in the past, and I've even made some incredible friends here! I've had successful meet-ups thanks to this subreddit as well, and I'm open to whatever form of communication once mutual comfort is established. I can both travel and host on the chance a conversation actually hits and takes off, too. I won't ask for photos or anything off the bat, but I'm definitely down to exchange pics eventually.
So, if any of this resonates with you and you'd like to talk more, please feel free to reach out! And thank you for taking the time to read all this!
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