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tl;dr - 32 year old aspiring dominant/primal male looks for local or UK-based, sex-positive subby/primal female for adventures, a relationship and kinky fun.

Bit of a long read but have aimed to give a well-rounded picture of me across kink, non-kink and what I'm looking for - let's hope it works!

Anyhow, I'm a 32 year old male - 5 ft 10, lean/fit build with glasses and dark hair, who is definitely kinky and BDSM leaning. I'm grateful that previous partners have all been sex and kink positive, allowing it to be included in my relationships.

Kinky me: I'd pitch myself as a novice who is building up - my current focus is on D/s (I've read Anton Fulmen's Heart of Dominance but still need to put it all in play), rope-play (defo a novice but keen to start rigging and tying up regularly with a partner) and outdoors (this is much much fun). I've had previous forays across each via past relationships and been along a few times to Torture Garden in Edinburgh, which was fun and felt like a gateway portal. I'm also trying to immerse myself into the local Edinburgh and Glasgow scene, but I reckon this may take some time due to work and having quite a bit of a social diary ongoing as well.

In terms of how I interact - I mainly derive satisfaction from giving my partner satisfaction - learning how to play them like a violin and building up the right intimacy and connect that creates further satisfaction for both involved. So I guess this puts me more in the direction of a pleasure dom, rather than a rules type/disciplinarian, though I do enjoy a bit of challenge and teasing partners through a combination of building tension, edging and denying (for a bit - you'll still get your reward!). The benefit here is that as long as it's not pushing my limits, I'll be open to exploring with you to ensure you get a good time too.

In addition I feel I am exploring primal territory, which comes across in my physical interactions during play with partners - lifting off the ground, biting, tumbling, wrestling and pinning - though this also seems to cross into primal play.Outside of the bedroom, I can get quite creative (kitchen, yoga mats, the great outdoors) and a bit frisky, but would rather any D/s elements stay in the bedroom, and that we're working on an equal basis as a team.I do have specific kinks along with some limits but since this is my main reddit account I'd rather discuss via chat/DM once we pick up things.

Vanilla me: Work keeps me quite busy, but I always aim to recharge batteries via quality activities.I self-qualify as geek, and have a range of interests - getting outdoors for fresh air, burying myself in a science-fiction or fantasy novel (or a good manga - Berserk was ace, currently on Chainsaw Man - less serious), painting tiny plastic models, moving heavy kettlebells and practising yoga meditation, cooking, baking my own bread and fermenting veggies.

I also enjoy dancing, conversations on current situations/where we're going/what ifs/assorted random topics, dark and nonsensical jokes riding bikes, sitting in the sun, listening to a range of music (from alternative to classical to synthwave) and the occasional craft session or board game.

You get the gist - there's always something on the go, though I do my best to get quiet time!

Also aiming to get a bit more travel going in 2024 since I've kept myself to the Scotland/UK. So far I have Iceland on the list, along with Amsterdam in December to go see Slipknot (and some Van Gogh, of course!)

What I'm looking for: I'm seeking a kinky partner for adventures and long-term, monogamous relationship with scope for it leading to life-long adventures and relationship, including building each other up, being an effective team and having shared experiences together across our various interests.Beyond that I could see this leading to setting up a family with kids (spot a kink!), tandem riding, campsites and taking on the world, plus excellent sex and play that never fizzles out.

Being up-front, I do have a bit of a physical type - namely bustier/curvier women around my height (or shorter) who are active and sporty. I've got a soft spot for pierced and tattooed girls though not all of my previous partners have been this, so I can definitely work outside this range. Ideally you're 25-33 but I have some flex on this.

Persona is also key - being friendly, communicative, warm, kind, switched-on, along with having a positive outlook, plus being passionate about something - geeky or not! Ideally, we also have some shared interests and hobbies, or are open to picking up ones from each other.Practicalities -

1. Looking for someone in the UK rather than further afield since i primarily want to avoid a long LDR.
2. If you like what you've read and feel a connect, then drop me a DM/chat/both (reddit chat can be buggy). I'm not a fast replier at times but will make the effort and would be up to meet sooner rather than later.
3. Will also swap pics early on since physical attraction is a bit of a thing for me.