I have a PhD in chemistry and now work at a biotech startup. I have also taught myself a foreign language without ever taking a class, and now I help others learn the language too. Self-improvement has always been very important to me- but I always feel I have to drag myself kicking and screaming towards my goals. Being dom-less the past several years has really made me appreciate how nice it is to have someone to tell you off and punish you when you are being a baby about doing something, and to reward you when you actually are a good girl.

I really like the recent trend of calling brat-loving Doms "wranglers" instead of "tamers" because banter is such a huge part of the fun of being a brat, and I wouldn't want to be tamed such that I just do everything for someone else without question. Anyone who knows me IRL probably would not be surprised to hear I have a brat kink, given that I just love riffing with everyone and trying to get on people's nerves for fun. But it's especially special with your Dom because you know exactly how to press their buttons and they know exactly how to punish you for it 😄

Sexually it's fun the way trying to subvert commands plays out. Being teased and edged and denied drives me crazy. I also like being paddled (or punished in some manner) for disobeying orders. I also like the idea of being forced to orgasm when you don't want to, though that's a little hard to enact given that I am a bit of a huge slut.

I'm not looking for just a hookup- it takes time to build up such a dynamic and to make sure someone is a good match for you. My limits are drawing blood, bathroom stuff, extreme degradation (slut is fine), hitting in the face, permanent injury, and using sex with other people as punishment. I do enjoy same-room group sex (i.e. swinging/"the lifestyle") but that also takes time to work up to. I am not otherwise poly and would not enjoy either of us dating/sleeping with other people separately. I am also not really a little and thus don't have a specific need to bestow my Dom with the "Daddy" title.

Politically I generally don't have a problem with what other people think, but I do hold some views that not everyone agrees with. I'm atheist and vegan and support women's right's to abortion, but I also believe strongly in personal responsibility, which leads to views such as being anti-affirmative action and not really understanding the importance of gender identity or gender affirmation (I say this as respectfully as possible so as to share as accurate of a portrait of myself as possible).

I'm 5'7" and 135 lbs and pretty hot. Happy to share pictures if we're a good match. I'm not interested in taking orders from just anyone, so I would prefer you to be fit, attractive, and successful as well. Yes I would prefer you to be in the same city as me, but since I'm looking for "my person," if you feel that I'm otherwise a perfect match for you, don't hesitate to reach out.

I've never posted on here before, but I've had no luck with vanilla dating the past several years so I'm giving it a go. I anticipate having to sift through a lot of fluff messages telling me how smart and sexy I am, so if you are serious about what I am asking for please make sure to convey that in your message so I won't overlook you. Some fun facts about me are that I am a huge Swiftie, I love reading, and I recently got a puppy.

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