Hello there and thank you for your interest in reading my post.

I'm looking for a long term dynamic that is closer to M/s than D/s, with a person of any gender who would consider themself a sadist rather than a pleasure Dom/me.

I'll start here by talking about me. I'm 29 and bdsm is all I've ever really been interested in. I've tried vanilla and found it incredible unfulfilling, and the longer I do bdsm the more on the... I won't say extreme, but definitely more on the intense side of things I prefer it. I'm a service sub, rather than a brat, and you'll get nothing but enthusiastic consent from me. I believe in a dynamic built on communication, honesty, and trust, and that has to go both ways, at the appropriate time of course.

Outside of kink, I work a high stress job and have a large number of commitments that keep me fairly busy, though I make as much time as I can. I'm an avid musician, an artist, a nature lover, a gym bunny, and my family and friends all take up lots of my time as well. I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation on any number of topics. I'm the organizer of everything, I handle the details, very type a, very much a control freak to make sure things go well for everyone.

I'm a dynamic, I'm very different. I am beyond eager to please, and I've had a fair bit of training. I understand what I want and I'm capable of expressing it. Major kinks of mine include denial, bondage, pain play of all kinds, free use, cnc, being shared, humiliation, and exhibitionism. There's more, but we can discuss that privately. I definitely have limits, and the main one you should be aware of is that I'm cautious about who I share media with, so it'll take a day or two for me to warm up to sharing pictures/voice. I've had some poor experiences, so if that's not understandable, please pass on by.

About you:

You're ideally 30 , in a north American time zone for ease of communication, into kinks that align with mine, and again, consider yourself a sadist. I'd prefer if this was not your first rodeo, because while I'm eager to please, I'm looking for someone with a bit of experience as well, enough to know they want the same intense things I do. Your body type and appendage size are largely irrelevant to me as long as there's a bit of attraction and you take care of your basic health. What matters to me is your mind, your energy, and your communication. Lastly, while I don't mind starting online, I'm looking for RL eventually. If you're not in my area, please be prepared to visit back and forth and eventually decide who's going to relocate.

Please understand that I may take some time to respond as I've posted before and responses can be overwhelming. For a better chance of a response please try to put in a bit of effort talking about yourself and why you think we'd be a good fit, as I've spent a lot of effort here.

Thank you for reading my short novel, and I'll hope go hear from you soon.