Hey all,

This is a bit of a read so I hope you don’t mind. The TLDR of it is — if you are new to kink and D/s and feeling lost and would like to talk to someone, I’m a message away. Or chat. Regardless of sex, location or experience.

Every so often I like to reach out and leave this floating in the interwebs — just in case it reaches someone new to kink that’s feeling frazzled. Or someone with a million questions and maybe they don’t know how to find the words. Please know — if you feel comfortable doing so, I’d be happy to talk with you about it and see if I can help answer some or any or all questions you have.

I know when I started learning about BDSM, I was a nervous wreck. I knew no one in the lifestyle and had zero friends I felt like I could ask. How do you begin opening yourself up like that, right? I felt anxious and lost and straight up insane for my fantasies and interest in dominance.

Well, now that I’ve done a lot of soul searching, I thought I’d try to help where I can and maybe lend a friendly ear to someone like me — someone feeling overwhelmed or confused or just wanting a space to vent.

But I know this is the Internet, home of the creepazoids. So: If you’d like to get to know me before asking anything BDSM related, please do. I enjoy talking in general, just look at the length of this post.

If you’re wondering about mentoring - think of it like a lifeline for when you need to vent or ask questions. I know this is Reddit and it’s one big forum but if you’re like me and you freeze at posting anything - well..know you are most definitely not alone and can do anything, just baby steps one day at a time! But if you’d prefer less of a forum, I’m happy to mentor. There’s nothing sexual about it, no honourifics are used. I’m just here to help out and pass on what I know for as long as you feel comfortable or would like.

Don’t self-edit. Don’t delete. Don’t hesitate. Your feelings and fantasies are valid! There’s no judgement here, even if you’re inexperienced. We all start somewhere and I’ll be here to chat if and when you are wanting to. But you’ve got this regardless of me! Keep going!

Here’s a bit about me:

I’m a Dominant man that hails from Melbourne, Australia. I’ve been in the lifestyle since I was in my teens, really, but it would take a while for me to come to terms with my anxiety over that side of myself before I could explore it. I deleted my Fetlife probably 5 or 6 times before I committed to it.

I consider myself a primal, which is just a way of being intimate - getting back to an animal state of mind: all growling and running naked and licking and biting and being free to express that side of my love language. I love nature and storms and being naked out in the rain. I like collars and leashes and exploring each other’s minds and fantasies. That’s beautiful to me. I find freedom and beauty in that.

I can tell you that l see being primal as a pact to myself. To be open without fear to myself and to others and to life itself. To challenge this anxiety within me. It’s become a lifestyle choice in a way - to be my truest self. Not to be an ass or anything but to be present and not trapped by my own self doubt. To live, not exist.

Outside of kink, I’m a bit of a dork. I love movies (Horror, Sci-Fi, Thriller, Disney Animated Musicals). I love reading. I love to write. I’m learning Spanish! I’m clunky at it. I love Mexican food and pugs and being naked out in the rain. Coffee is a must most days. I’m introverted and prefer a grey raining day in with a good book!

Annnnd I’m going to stop this novel here. If you’re still with me, thank you for reading and please don’t hesitate to reach out! Either in a message or chat. Chat notifications can be wonky sometimes.