But they can be hard to reconcile with reality.

You want a realistic relationship. You exist within the real world, and sharing the everyday facets of your life with your partner is as important to you as sharing the intimate ones. At the same time, you want to submit your whole self to him, to offer up your volition and beg him to teach you to find your purpose in service to him. Both sides of you are real, and he wants to integrate all the pieces of your life and his even as he helps you to be your best in the new union.

You want to have a life of your own. Your job, your family, your friends, your hobbies... they all matter, and you want your partner to be happy with the happiness they bring you. At the same time, you want to be devoted to him, ardent and adoring as you put him first in your heart. Both sides of you are real, and he wants you to have a full life even as he cherishes your gift of it to him.

You want to be heard. You're smart and perspicacious and thoughtful in your opinions, and you want your partner to give them the weight they deserve. At the same time, you want to trust that the final decisions are his to make, that he takes responsibility for leading well with his choices and his wisdom. Both sides of you are real, and he wants to welcome your counsel even as he accepts your deference.

You want to be respected. You've worked hard to become the person you are, and you want your partner to be proud of you, to acknowledge what makes you good and worthy. At the same time, you want to be degraded, to glory in feeling low and small and weak and owned. Both sides of you are real, and he honors the former even as he cultivates the latter.

You want structure. You thrive in a context of stability and consistency, and its assurance in your home life gives you a sense of equilibrium and peace. At the same time, you want that structure to take the form of discipline and reasonable rules, giving you expectations to meet and support in doing so. Both sides of you are real, and he wants you to depend on his fairness even as he administers it compassionately.

You want to have fun. Your soul is playful, and you love to banter and laugh and enjoy life with the man you love. At the same time, you want to take your relationship seriously, to treat the happiness of your dynamic and your connection with reverence. Both sides of you are real, and he wants to inspire your joy even as he carefully upholds its foundation.

You want to love and to be loved. Your heart is brimming, a deep ocean of affection you can't wait to give to your partner every day, and you know the only supersessor of your love for him is his own endless love for you. At the same time, you want that expression of love to come in many forms, each so unique to the intimacy he's built with you that you can't share them all in polite company. Both sides of you are real, and he wants to nurture the love you share even as he shares it with you intensely, roughly, demeaningly, descriptively.

You want to be seen. All of these desires, all these hopes, all these pieces of yourself... you want him to know them and accept them, knowing full well how complex you are. At the same time, you want him to take your adoration and dedication and passion and fidelity and love and to make them simple – to make them his. Every part of you is real, even your dreams.

And so, he reconciles them. Via consent and communication and a mutual ambition to live the life you both need, together, he makes all you want and all he wants into a reality. The love he builds with you is still recognizable as your dreams.

They've just come true.

Tl;dr: Insightful man seeks smart, self-aware woman for realistic life-long TPE relationship. Please inquire via PM for so, so many more details.