I'm looking for a pure online LTR that may translate into an IRL one at some point.
Just something up front: I'm currently living in an open D/S-relationship with a sub (F) from the asexual spectrum who knows of this and is totally okay with it - in fact even suggested parts of this. Does that mean I'm emotionally unavailable? No. She and I know fully well that longterm d/s-stuff can be very intimate, because you get to know each other in a way that most other people don't, and that this may have some side-effects on the emotional front.
I'm searching for a Sub willing to gradually hand over control and engange in a longterm d/s-relationship which aims to further explore their submissive side and kinks during their training. Ideally you have some behaviour alteration kink like sluttyfication, chastity, feminization or something similar that plays directly into this. For me this is mainly about the journey itself: The control, the training, the progress - anything on top is considered a nice bonus. Although I should mention that I won't engage in anything that doesn't have a sexual component or if you consider anything regarding anal permanently off limits.
How exactly this all will play out depends obviously on whatever we agree on, but I want to include sending images, voice- and videochat at some point.
When it comes to me as a Dom, I'm on the softer side of things and prefer a gentle and caring approach. This doesn't mean that I can't be strict or shy away from punishment or stuff like impact play though; I'm just using encouragement and praising way more than humiliation and degredation. I also value discipline and'll work towards it, if I find it lacking.
All of this will require a great deal of building trust along the way and getting to know each other better. So I want to learn about you outside the kink-context too, especially because I'm interested in finding out what makes you tick and how to push your buttons so you can really enjoy your part in all of this. I'd prefer it if you're more on the clingy/chatty side, since I don't want to be the only one starting conversations/keeping them alive. Maybe we have some other things in common that we could engage in together digitally as well (e.g. ai-art, gaming, writing).
PS: I don't mind/can handle if you're "a tad bit off the neurotypical chart". I don't have to know everything about it if you don't want me to, but I'd like at least a brief mention of it - in some cases I might change the way I go about things, for example how I set up tasks and rules when ADHD is involved. As you may have guessed from all of this, I've got some experience in this area.
About me:

Looks:
33M, 1.86m (6'1"), average build, white, dark blonde (side part), blue eyes and as for a certain piece of information, well, if it really matters to you: Somewhere between the averages of Ghana and Jamaica - if this is really an important deal to you, looking this up won't be too much of a hassle.

Kinks:
Anal, big toys, body-writing, bondage (incl. shibari), deep throat, fisting, free use, impact play, orgasm-denial, pet-play, roleplay ....
I'm generally into a lot of things, just let me know what you're into (I don't kink-shame) and we can see whether we can include it.

Limits:
Extreme violence, feeding, lasting injuries, scat, diapers, anything that could possibly ruin the life of one of us... you get the gist.
I'm looking for:
What I'm looking for deviates a bit depending on gender, so I split it in M and F where applicable - if you don't belong to either one, pick whatever resonates most with you.
Your age:
F: Well, if you couldn't be mistaken for my grandmother, I'm probably fine with it.
M: Up to my age.
Your looks:
General No-Gos are poor hygiene, body hair (aside from small exceptions) and being morbidly obese. Looks in general aren't such a big deal to me and it mainly depends on whether it just "clicks".
Your kinks:
Surprise me.
M: You should be into feminization/sissyfication.
If you've made it this far: Thank you for reading all of this. I know that it was a lot of text, but I wanted to make sure that we're on the same page and you understand that I've given this some serious thought.
I'm looking forward to hearing from/getting to know you.