I'm hosting outside Bend.

Late-Jan to mid-Feb I have access to a clean and empty apartment, before it gets new tenants :) and I'm going to (more or less) copy-pasta the same thing I have been posting:

I get that the more we are strangers and the less we define everything, then the more real it will seem. But for my part, I don't feel safe fooling around without safeguards and clarity around expectations. I don't want an STD, and I don't want someone to regret their decision and then accuse me of real sexual assault, so I rely on communication to prevent any mishaps.

That said, I'm hoping to vibe check someone and then have some fun wrestling around and/or struggle-fucking. If you're down, maybe play around with some role-play and/or humiliation kink while we're at it, but I'm flexible and respectful of boundaries.

My Kink Origin Story: In my 20's, I was making out with a woman and started to try to get to "third base", but she kept pushing me away and closing her legs, while making the "no sound", like “Mh-Mh", and shaking head - but at the same time - she kept acting very coy, giving me a seductive look, and making little giggly-moans… I was rock hard, but confused as fuck by what was going on. After the third attempt, I gave up because we were running late for our date anyway.

Years later, 30’s-something-me was having a conversation about kinks with my girlfriend at the time, we were opening up to each other about stuff so I told her the story above, and how I still think about it. I lamented how there was no way to know if the girlfriend from years ago might have wanted me to “take her” while she struggled, but the idea still turned me on. I told her I didn’t really know if it was a kink I wanted to act on, because I hadn’t tried to recreate the experience - all I knew was that the idea alone turned me on. The conversation eventually drifted away from that topic and I kinda forgot about it, until…

In bed that night my girlfriend started doing this thing she did sometimes, where she would ‘tell me' with her body language that she wanted to fuck. But this time, when I started to get physical she went cold and pushed me away. To this day, I don’t know how I’m so dense... I literally thought I was mistaken and laid back down to go to bed. She starts doing it again - rubbing her ass on me a little, moving in a slow seductive way against me, and it still doesn’t click - I thought I must have been confused about her signals the first time.

So I start to get physical again, she pushes me off again, and again I’m surprised - at first… After the second time pushing me away, and with 10 seconds of rational thought, it all came together in my mind. I suddenly realized that she was doing the thing I had told her about earlier.

Fam. Let me tell you. I learned real quick that I have a kink for struggle fucking! It. Was. Amazing. We had so much fun. And even though the relationship didn’t work out, I came out of my early 30’s a changed man because of that experience.

Fast forward to now: At the very minimum I am looking for some good ole, vanilla, struggle fucking. Wanna wrassle? I’m your man. I’m open to the whole spectrum: I'd love it if you playfully resisted, and I over-powered, while we both laugh and giggle like idiots, or you can scream and fight back. Or we could explore power dynamics and role-play. I'm open to a lot of things.

It should be obvious, but the more intense the play, the more work it’s going to take to set it up. My preference is to start light and build from there, but really it depends on the person, the specifics, and the groundwork that has been laid.

I’m very first-time friendly, so it never hurts to reach out if you’re curious - you can always change your mind.

About Me: I’m an attractive man, or so I’m told. A solid 7, maybe 8 on a good day, and sort of “Mediterranean-white”. I'm average height and weight, but under 6' (Sorry size queens!). I have a slightly lean, used-to-be-more-fit build. No six-pack, but I’m surprisingly strong from years of a pre-injury bodyweight fitness. I present mostly vanilla, and am very personable. I’m willing to put in a lot of work to build rapport and help you feel comfortable before anything happens, because I also need that before we proceed.

I’m not new to kink, but a lot of my early experiences were… Sub-par… Because my partners and I didn’t know how to effectively communicate. Now that I do, I like to use that skill so we can craft fun experiences together.

Our safeword is "Red".

So hit me up! Send me a selfie and I will return the favor, or at least describe yourself, and let's make something happen.