After a long time messaging people here, I've decided it's finally time to make my own post. Maybe my future partner has also been lurking and waiting for me to post...well, I'm here.

I'm a 34 year old male, educated with a good career. I'm fairly tall and decent-sized (6' tall, 220ish pounds, sort of waver between muscular or a bit of a dad bod depending on the season) so for those of you who like size differences, we're likely good there.

I live outside of the DMV area about halfway between DMV and Philly, so anyone in DC/Baltimore/Philly or even NYC or Norfolk/Virginia Beach is especially encouraged to message me. (They're all within a perfectly manageable weekend drive for me.) I am also moving to the southeast in the coming months. That having been said, I have a ton of airline miles and fly all the time, so I'm perfectly ok with a longer distance if you find my post compelling.

Regardless of where you are, I'd like to start online for a bit. I don't want LDR forever, but I am certainly open to it at the start.

As for the kink stuff, I'm looking for a respectful and complete TPE relationship. For me, all of my kinks are rooted in one thing: control. I'm looking for someone who enjoys being controlled as much as I enjoy being in control.

The expressions of that can vary based on the particular dynamic my partner and I establish, but I historically have enjoyed service submission (a must), discipline, orgasm control/denial, humiliation, impact play/spanking, clothing restrictions, check-ins, etc.

Acts of service is definitely an important thing for me to receive. Like I said, I'm educated with a good career, so if you're interested in a 1950s style dynamic, definitely shoot me a message. Clothing restrictions have a particular appeal - what better way to have an ongoing dynamic than to have subtle reminders and restrictions throughout the day? Knowing you're wearing something not because you chose to, but because you were told to.

Here's a part that may be an issue for some, but I think will make sense to the right person: I would say I'm monogam-ish. I'm not particularly interested in the poly lifestyle and want one partner to build a life with. BUT in order to the TPE to feel "total," I like to establish that I have options that my partner does not. It ties into the humiliation/control aspect of things – think more of a "cuckquean"-type dynamic than a true poly approach.

(I want to clarify that this is not about wanting to be poly. I think it's perfectly compatible with monogamous approaches/dynamics. It's about the humiliation/control, not the need to actually act on it. I'm happy to clarify more over chat.)

I also want to emphasize the "mutual respect and trust." I want someone who enjoys submission as much as I enjoy domination – someone who submits to me because they WANT to submit to me. I believe establishing that kind of dynamic takes time and I am willing to invest that time. I hope you are too.

If this sounds like you, feel free to shoot me a message so we can discuss. I look forward to hearing from you.