Brooklyn-based s-type looking for a D-type primary partner, giving this a go as Feeld is such a mess right now.

The vanilla details: I’m a Leftist, fit, 5’6 mixed ethnicity tech worker, in NY 10 years now. I love to read (speculative fiction is my jam) and make things with my hands, dabbling in ceramics, metalworking, and more recently leatherwork and chainmail. I also used to be pretty deep in the rave scene, but have dropped off a bit though I’ll still find my way to a techno, dnb, or house show, and I’m generally more than happy to check out any live music event with a few notable exceptions.

The less vanilla: Ethical/consensual non-monogamy of some sort is ultimately the relationship type that I believe suits me best. The novelty of new sexual dynamics is something I really love, and would like to keep experiencing. I also have an exhibitionist streak: online here and on fetlife, and IRL having attended a play party and interested in more. I’m newish to the kink scene, playing online & IRL for two years or so, and have a partner who has been my Dom for nearly a year. For transparency, that relationship has had to de-escalate due to life things (happy to discuss in more detail elsewhere). I enjoy rope play and general bondage, discipline, and orgasm control. I’m not really an impact bottom, but enjoy it as a flavour of discipline. I also love being choked and bitten.

What I’m looking for: A Leftist D-type for something that has potential to be a long-term dynamic mostly in the bedroom, though certain things may extend beyond, depending. I’m not submissive outside the bedroom, and find it difficult to submit if I don’t feel we are aligned in values or intellect. I’d love to find some flavour of nonmonogamy that fits the dynamic, so if you’re interested feel free to tell me what that relationship dynamic might look like for you! I’m also a sucker for rugby/hockey boys, so if you fit the bill, do step up!

I have some photos on here already, and some further on fetlife (same username). If you’re interested please let me know your age/name/location, and a pic if you’re comfortable, as well as your thoughts on ENM like I mentioned above.