hi all! I’m going to be really specific in hopes i can find what I’m looking for. Please read all the way to the end if you’re interested in reaching out to me, thanks!

Basics: I like to think of myself as and independent and self sufficient person, and I’ve always been happy to be single an unattached. But recently I’ve been feeling the urge to settle down (kind of). Mainly what I’ve been craving is a partner to share my life with. I’ve been really happy with my physical sex life recently but I find I’m missing that element of consistent emotional support, and I also have a strong desire to nurture that’s not being met. While I am a switch, I think in terms of a long term relationship I’d be most compatible with with a service sub, so that’s what’s I’m primarily looking for now.

About me: I’m a switch born and raised in NYC and I’ve been involved in the kink community for several years. As a domme, I tend to lean more soft domme; teasing, playful humiliation and degradation, chastity, pegging, cuckolding and denial are all especially fun for me. I’m self sufficient (more on that later) and emotionally intelligent. Vanilla-wise, I work from home and spend the days with my dog, who I’m obsessed with. I am a perpetually early riser and sleeper and stick to a pretty rigid schedule for some reason. I enjoy cooking, hiking, and have started learning to surf (though I am terrible). I’ve also been taking ASL classes and would love someone to practice with. I love live music and would go to far more of it if I could manage to sleep in after a late night. It’s fair to say I’m somewhat of a clean freak/germaphobe and have strong opinions on how households should operate, take as you will. Despite all that, I’m not a hard person to get along with, I can confidently say I’m a great friend and love spending time with people in quiet and boisterous moments, as long as they’ve washed their hands. Physically I’m white, 5’6” and I have thick thighs a fat ass and great feet (I’ve been told by every catcaller I’ve encountered but you’re welcome to reserve judgement for yourself), brown curly hair, greenish eyes, a few tattoos and piercings. I’m happy to exchange pictures if/when it comes to that.

What I’m looking for: A long term, mutually fulfilling relationship with someone I can’t wait to wake up to every morning. For me that person will be an equal partner that I can talk about anything with. Someone I respect and can trust their judgement. Someone who’s independent self-assured and doesn’t rely on me or others as the sole source of validation. Someone who has done work on themselves and accepts who they are, who won’t project shame onto their loved ones when they’re feeling insecure. Someone empowered in themselves who can do anything they want but chooses to submit to me. As far as ideal dynamic, I mentioned service subs specifically because ideally my partner would want me to be happy and find pleasure in making my life comfortable and pleasurable. Like who wouldn’t want that ☺️ I mentioned cuckolds specifically because it’s a kink of mine and I am a switch and want to be able to maintain that part of my identity even if I enter into a relationship. However, I’m definitely open-minded and looking for personal compatibility above all else. If you don’t identify as a service sub but you’re a good person/not a misogynist who weaponizes incompetence to live a carefree life while saddling your partner with the mental burden of your life, great! If you don’t enjoy cuckolding but do enjoy a more poly/stag vixen lifestyle, I’d like to hear more! And to be perfectly clear I’m not interested in the hypersexual porn version of cuckolding relationships, and I don’t want someone who just wants to be with me because I can offer them that lifestyle. I want a cozy life with a great partner who enjoys me as I am…with just a lot of fun kinkiness mixed in.

Logistics: I live in Brooklyn and plan to stay here long term. I’m happy to stay chatting long distance, but please be open to relocating if that’s the case. I don’t want to have children of my own, and think the DINK life plus dog(s) would really suit me. That said, if you happen to have kids and a great relationship with your co-parent, please reach out (I realize this might complicate the relocation thing)! I'm looking for 25-45 age range give or take, especially at the top of the range. Please do not reach out to me if you are married/ in monogamous relationship where you’re partner wouldn’t be aware/on board with this. And finally, please include your favorite band, musical act, in your response so I know you got to the end.

Thanks and happy scrolling!