I cannot fathom why some post the way they do. As if a wish list/laundry list will succeed in their search. I am beginning my search hopefully, with the right word forward.
I am an older Dominant gentleman that has been participating in or a member of the lifestyle for over 2 decades. I am experienced in RACK,SSC, and consent. I don't push hard limits and respect the sub's wishes. These are the big things any sub or slave needs to consider. I don't see a whole lot of these topics covered in many ads. And then one wonders why they have a bad experience. These are VERY important topics to cover in the very beginning.

I am searching for a sub or slave that will fit what it is I am not only wanting but, needing. It is not always rainbows and lollipops that's for sure lol. I believe that a sub is a Dom's Counterpoint/balance. They give as needed when needed. Whether it be rough, affectionate, warmth, or support. In return, a Dom gives that same type of give. It is indeed a back and forth, as much as it is in a traditional relationship. That's where "the one" plays a role. It still takes that very same special person(s) to meet the requirements needed by either party.   
I don't want this to come off sounding as a rant or that I do not have a softer, funnier side. I do in fact have a great sense of humor (though dark at times). I just happen to take the dynamic as a serious endeavor and honestly wish more did so as well. Yes, it is meant to be fun but, safe as well. If you get traumatized because of someone's lack of respect or you not being clear beforehand, all kinds of things can go sideways rather quickly. I for one, prefer to err on the side of caution until trust is built. Once that occurs and has been established, then all bets are off lol!.   
I am married to a babygirl sub. She is wonderful and vibrant and intelligent. She had a hysterectomy and it caused her to no longer have much of a drive or to want to participate in the dynamic as much as she used to enjoy it. i respect her for communicating this to me and understand. The last thing I would want to do is make it harder on her than it has to be. She is openly bi as well, and open to exploration of opening our relationship up for me to find what I need and want. That alone makes her irreplaceable. But, as I stated early on, I do indeed have wants and needs. I am not looking for a "side chick" or a mistress of sorts. I am looking for another sub to incorporate fully into our dynamic, household, and relationship.  I know this is asking a lot as it appears as though everyone is seeking monogamy. And I respect and understand your choice. I am searching for the third to create a closed triad. A tripod is stronger than 2 legs after all. Who wouldn't want that type of strength in a bond?  
Needless to say, I know that I need to offer up a brief physical description of myself. And, I will do so here. I want to clarify my only requirement for responding to me is this, I require you to be born female or CIS female if preferred. I am open to entertain whomever reaches out sincerely and seriously. Now for me to keep my promise above...I am 45 years old. I stand at 5'11 and weight about 215lbs currently. I do occasionally workout and try to eat healthier than I once did. I have a lot of hobbies that I pick up and put down as needed. I prefer to DIY whatever I can or feel comfortable tackling. I have big dreams that I am still working towards as long term goals. I have made some mistakes in my past and I am not perfect. Nor am I some hyped misrepresentation. I have done my best to be honest and transparent here. I am an open book and welcome any questions you may have.   

For those that choose to respond, Thank you for taking the time to read through all of this. I look forward to those responses, and starting meaningful conversations to see where they may lead.