Disclaimer: This may be a strange request. I'm not looking for a partner but someone to help me able to articulate my kinks, needs. to future partners. Someone to help me discern fakes from the real. Almost a mentor? Somebody to vent to and give me tips.
A few years ago, I discovered I was submissive. This was born out of immense frustration in my failing marriage. In any case, I am back on the market but have had a lot of trouble being able to explain what I like to partners and running into situations that make me quickly feel the ick. I am also not sure if this ick is due to shame surrounding my kinks vs way I was raised. In any case, I just need someone to help me better explain what I actually like so I do not run into any more unsavoury situations where I am stammering through my wants, needs and BIG FAT NOs. I feel like I know what I dislike more than what I do like. Which is a major turnoff to potential partners it seems. Also, tips on how to find a kinky partner in the dating world or other platforms. I fear Iām too vanilla and shy for some kink dating platforms or in person events.
For example, Some of my kinks are different than things I just want to do a cursory exploration of (i.e. I kinda want to explore raceplay but how do you bring that up? And my interest in it is more of the control part rather than the race part.). and I am not sure if you tell a potential partner that or do you have different partners for different things?
In any case, would love to just have an online friend/mentor type to discuss these things. Can be a submissive woman or a dominant man. Please do disclose your age and gender though. Any minority woman who are also subs that can help me out would be an extra bonus (Iām black). 35 ONLY
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