Hi! You can call me M, or Moth. I’m pretty new at all this (only one dom prior) so if I miss anything or don’t make sense let me know! I’m always happy to keep learning.

General About Me As the title says, I’m 29F, plus sized, with long dark hair and green eyes. My style is somewhere between whimsigoth and grunge—basically the witchy friend in a 90s movie. I am genuinely a (very casual) pagan witch, I have had trauma related to the Christian church and do not plan on returning to it. (Just in case that’s a dealbreaker for anyone.) I’m also fairly liberal, as that might suggest.

I love reading, writing, crafts, drawing, baking, D&D and video games. I have a master’s in creative writing. I’m very much the “mom friend” in any group, and I’m driven almost neurotically to take care of those around me and put their needs first. I enjoy acts of service and caring for others when they need kindness and support. What I have realized is that I am in desperate need of someone who can look out for me and help me prioritize myself.

My “toxic traits” are mainly from my ADD— I’m easily distracted, may forget to immediately answer messages if I’m hyper focused on something else, and I am extremely disorganized. I struggle to keep up with household tasks because I get overwhelmed and it feels impossible after I’ve put all my energy into my job. So if you’re looking for a put together type A gal, I am maybe not the one for you. I would love to be good at those things, and I can manage the actual tasks, but schedules and routines are a struggle. I’d love for my partner to help fill in my gaps, but that’s not a requirement of my first forays into all this.

What I Am Looking For

In general, the type of person I am looking for is someone intelligent, kind, and patient. Enjoying reading would be a major bonus. I would love for it to be someone a little nerdy, especially if you like D&D, Star Trek, or science fiction. (Picard is my favorite Captain, and I tend to play clerics.)

Location is not an issue to me. I will happily move somewhere new with the right person if this becomes that serious.

Dynamic wise I’m looking for a male dom who can show me the ropes (pun very much intended) and help me explore the world of this kink. I would like it to be someone who is kind and nurturing, and would take good care of me. I am not at all interested in degradation/humiliation/sadism; I really don’t need any help with the cruel thoughts my brain likes to provide.

I’d love for our relationship to be both romantic and kink—in an ideal world I would find a life partner/husband who would also be my dom. Because of this, I don’t mind the dynamic extending outside of the bedroom, so to speak, but I would appreciate a dom who would welcome my opinions and ideas. I would be open to visible signs of the agreement (like wearing tokens/collar or wardrobe chosen for me, which I enjoy) but I want to be able to keep my personality and style, so I would prefer that be taken into consideration.

Kink Stuff

I think I am mostly just a plain submissive, although I have a few tendencies that led me to consider a slave or pet dynamic, I don’t know that I would be comfortable with that level of intensity. I do genuinely want to please and to be praised, and I will take punishments seriously as pleasing my dom is my highest concern.

I’m new at this, so some of this list might be vague at the moment.

I Know I Like: - Light bondage - Light pain/impact play - Overstimulation - Oral (giving) - “Good Girl” and other praise - Pet names/terms of endearment - Encouragement and being coached/instructed - Biting and/or other marks - Hair pulling

I am Curious About - CNC - More complex bondage - Primal themes - Multiple male partners

I am Definitely Not Interested in - DDlg or similar - extreme violence or snuff - High pain activities - watersports and etc.

So yeah! Id love to hear about you as a human first and foremost before getting kinky. Let me know your favorite fandoms or tell me what you think of orange peel theory. Everyone’s gotta start somewhere!