This is the abridged version of my kinky memoir! If/when you're ready for more detail, check out the pinned post on my profile.

About me

- Cis woman, average/healthy weight, under 5 feet, "busty petite"

- Childfree. Sterilized. No kids, never having kids.

- Non-monogamous. I don't have any hierarchy or nesting partners. I believe deep connections can be had without any need for exclusivity. Condoms and STI tests are musts. Currently, I'd really like a partner I can have a BDSM dynamic with and be dating at the same time.

- Work in adult entertainment. Have a team of employees, which really helps with work/life balance and lots of flexibility! I have some slightly unusual approaches to help keep my work life very separate from my personal life.

- Keep busy with animal rescue, as well as occasional activism and immigration volunteer work. Love learning more about psychology, sociology, neuroscience, and finance. Read often, especially sci-fi.

The kink/what I'm looking for

- Power exchange is a must. What that looks like exactly, can be defined collaboratively. There are many flavors of D/s, 24/7, M/s, TPE (though I have opinions about that term!) and so on. I definitely seek more than bedroom-only kink. "Lifestyle" BDSM might be one way of seeing it; munches/play parties/community can be fun but not at all necessary. For me, the lifestyle is more about the power exchange that continues outside of scenes/bedroom time.

- Looking for something with longish-term potential, not hookups.

- Top 4 kinks: Impact play, orgasm control, objectification, bondage.

- More kink interests: 24/7, caning, forced orgasms, humiliation, individual free use, praise, restraints, spanking, training.

- I'm not looking for online only. I'm not really a fan of anything requiring NSFW pics, video calls... I expect we'll be able to meet up occasionally to spend in person time together. However, daily communication (usually through text) is still pretty important to me, and probably necessary for this sort of dynamic.

- Less common hard limits: Anything in or on my mouth/lips (that does include giving oral), breeding kink/roleplay, face slapping, choking.

- Other hard limits, including but not limited to: Bathroom play, body writing, feet, needles or cutting, permanent marks, almost everything illegal.

You, ideally...

- At least 28 years old

- Some experience with kink already, and a good idea of what you're looking for.

- I'm currently looking for something local, so Dekalb county (Atlanta) is a must. I'm medically unable to drive right now, and don't host (housemates, who I do prefer having, but they're so nosy!), so taking regular Ubers to Alpharetta/Marietta/etc is not sustainable. Alternatively, you live outside of Dekalb but you're 100% okay with driving to my area and grabbing a hotel whenever we want "bedroom" time. Please acknowledge this in your initial message, if that's the case!

- Stay aware of and take reasonable precautions against infections (COVID, flu/viruses, STIs, and others)

- Are not a cop, immigration officer, or anyone who otherwise is in the habit of violating human rights. We will not get along.

Let's talk more!

- You must have a bio of some sort. A post on BDSMPersonals, your profile, Fetlife, or similar is all good. More is more; I'm happy to read it all! I have a lot written here so that you can assess compatibility early on, and I expect to be able to do the same.

- I've had some good success making connections here on Reddit, both in the recent and more distant past. I'm here hoping for more success, even as a I refine my longish term goals and desires!

- I don't really use Fetlife as a social platform, instead I'm now using it for longer form Writings that are set to Friends Only. I can share that after we've been talking for a bit!

- Reddit chat strongly preferred over DMs.