The kind that makes your brain tingle, your skin shiver and your groin throb. Where you can't help but dive deeper into each other because not doing so would feel wrong.
This might seem like a strange place to search for something like that to some, but I (and hopefully someone else) think it is the best place. Just by coming here we have already revealed something about ourselves that a lot of us don't to most of the people around us. Starting from that vulnerable position shows that we are willing to expose ourselves, shows that we are open. Assuming most people here "do BDSM" right, it also indicates that we are looking for and providing trust. And those are all the things that I am looking for.
Building from the aforementioned vulnerability and openness I want to build trust and as that grows, I want us to delve into each other. Reach into one another's skulls with our hands, feel our brains, investigate them, massage them and poke them. And by doing that, make the rest of our beings follow along, because they have no other choice but to do so.
How this plays out from the BDSM aspect is hard to tell since we don't know each other yet. But I would want some level of your submission over time, play of various kinds and experimenting with what works and what doesn't until we reach an equilibrium that works for both of us.
I realize that this all sounds really far fetched and highly idealized and it is. But I'm not f*cking willing to settle for less. I want my partner to actually be the first and last thing I think about every day, because she captivates me mentally and physically. Because I want to make sure that she is fulfilled in every possible aspect. Because I need to know that she is safe (in many different ways). And because I WANT her.
Down the line I see us being true partners that enrich their lives with each other and kink.
Idealistic ramble over.
Here are some "technicalities":
- The title says switch (because I am) but please don't let that deter anyone that resonated with the above and are looking for a "full" or "true" dom. I can be that, no worries, it's just that I'm also open to the other side if the situation arises. (This is me being open and honest from the start)
- I'm looking for long term. What that looks like I don't know right now because I don't know you. Is it monogamous, poly, something we create for ourselves, I don't know. I am open to all of it. The only caveat I have is that you are willing for me to be your "main" one and you are able to put in the needed time and effort.
- A quick list of hobbies/interests (no real need for overlap from my side): 2 dogs, trail running, audio books, podcasts, volunteer firefighting, geocaching, hiking, youtube, NFL, Lego...
- Physical description because attraction is also a part of it: 194 cm, 115kg, short hair, beard, tattoos. Picture: https://imgur.com/a/UMUfpEq
- Limits: scat, incest, everything else is a matter of our discussions.
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