Hey,

On the off chance you stumble across this and maybe you’re new to kink, maybe you’re learning and figuring things out, maybe you have a million questions and you don’t know what to do with them — well, this might seem weird, being on a personals page and all but: If you feel comfortable doing so, I’d be happy to talk with you about it and see if I can help answer some questions you have.

I know when I started learning about BDSM, I was a nervous wreck. I knew no one in the lifestyle and had zero friends I felt like I could ask. How do you begin opening yourself up like that, right? I felt anxious and lost.

Well, now that I’ve done a lot of soul searching, I thought I’d try to lend a friendly ear and see if I can help someone like me — someone feeling overwhelmed or confused or just wanting to vent.

But I know this is the Internet, home of the creepazoids. So: If you’d like to get to know me before asking anything BDSM related, please do. I enjoy talking in general, just look at the length of this post.

Speaking of, if you’re still here, here’s a little something about me.

I’m a Dominant man that hails from Melbourne, Australia. I’ve been in the lifestyle since I was in my teens, really, but it would take a while for me to come to terms with my anxiety over that side of myself before I could explore it. I deleted my Fetlife probably 5 or 6 times before I committed to it.

I consider myself a primal, which is just a way of being intimate - getting back to an animal state of mind: all growling and running naked and licking and biting and being free to express that side of my love language. I love nature and storms and being naked out in the rain. I like collars and leashes and exploring each other’s minds and fantasies. That’s beautiful to me. I find freedom and beauty in that.

I can tell you that l see being primal as a pact to myself. To be open without fear to myself and to others and to life itself. To challenge this anxiety within me. It’s become a lifestyle choice in a way - to be my truest self. Not to be an ass or anything but to be present and not trapped by my own self doubt. To live, not exist.

Outside of kink, I’m a bit of a dork. I love my reading, I love to write. I love RPGs and Disney animated musicals. I love Mexican food and concerts and pugs and lying naked under a fan and listening to rain. I’m introverted so I’m happy at home with a book or a few friends.

Annnnd I’m going to stop this novel here. If you’re still with me, thank you for reading and please don’t hesitate to reach out!