Who I Am

I'm a human being, first and foremost. I have my own thoughts and feelings, and like to think about really dumb stuff way too hard sometimes. Femdom media doesn't represent me at all, so it's a good idea to approach this profile with few misconceptions. I tend to subvert stereotypes by existing as I do, and by having hard limits where there usually are none and vice versa. My kinks are fun, hot, and enjoyable for me, not degrading, dehumanizing, or insulting. This can all be off-putting for potential partners, so I'm putting it near the top for easier reading.

I hate wearing heels, love bright colors, and don't own a single piece of leather clothing or a corset. You'll never have to pay just to talk to me, and I have no wish lists. I'm just your atypical nice suburban lifestyle dominant who loves rimming and blow jobs :)

As an avid indoors enthusiast, I love gay romance novels, colorful and weird things, puzzles of all kinds, innovative ideas, making my own torture implements, board and computer games, and crafting. I enjoy watching British sitcoms and dramas, and fiddling with tech. I'm learning hydroponics so I can grow corn and bananas and veggies in my living room, just to say I did it. I got my bike updated so I can ride it soon, and I love road trips. I can be the life of the party if I have to be, but it's tiring. I am hopeless in the kitchen.

Other Specs

• Single. Few people have held my interest long enough to date, and I've never been married.
• Mostly monogamous. A solid mFm relationship is an appealing idea, however unlikely it may be.
• Straight, cis, and on the asexual spectrum (demisexual and aegosexual). Basically, I think about sex from a distant, third-person perspective when I'm not in a relationship. I don't insert myself into fantasies when I think about sex. I have zero desire to engage in anything sexual with you until and unless we form an extremely close emotional attachment. This means that if you are expecting sex or sex-adjacent activities before a committed relationship, then I am not the right person for you.
• Average-looking fat black woman. I'm almost 6ft tall, with shoulder-length hair, and I do strength and cardio training 2-3 times per week. I like to eat healthy foods and practice good self-care.
• Industrial designer. I develop usable, useful, beautiful, and delightful products for retail.

My Dating Style

My dating style is in-person undates - hanging out as friends who want to pursue a relationship with each other. No dressing up, no pressure. Just having fun, going on quests, and learning a bit about each other in the process. I am uninterested in long-distance or online only. Although my timeline is comparatively glacial, we will meet in person. Until we do, we will talk often. My love languages are tied between receiving thoughtful gifts and acts of service. I like the little things - a weird rock that you found that makes you think of me, a handmade card, remembering my favorite strap-on, or chores done just right.

Who I'm Looking For

I'm looking for a nice suburban sub or slave interested in a long-term relationship with a dominant woman. Ideally a masochist, but not at all required. They should be thoughtful, clever, selfless, anticipatory, gentle, somewhat clingy, equally weird, into similar dark kinks, and kind. They should be open to being loved and valued (and to doing so in return), to forming a deeply intimate and lasting bond...and also to being tortured from time to time. I also have a self-improvement kink, where my partner and I work together to be the best version of ourselves possible. Aesthetically, my extremely narrow window of primary sexual attraction means that my ideal partner would fall under the androgynous, genderfluid, CD/TV, or femboy labels. Thanks to being demi, I can sometimes develop secondary sexual attraction to other types - but the further from this aesthetic we go, the more difficult or impossible it becomes.

Must-Haves

• Age 27 to 45; if you are younger than 27 or older than 45, DO NOT CONTACT ME.
• Androgynous, genderfluid, CD/TV, or femboy
• White
• Male or AMAB sub or slave
• Straight, bi, or pan
• Disease free (I get cold sores occasionally, so if you do too, that's okay)
• Drug and alcohol free, currently and permanently
• Dog/cat free (extremely allergic)
• Considers good mental, emotional, and physical health a priority

Who I'm Not Looking For

• People who use honorifics like goddess, mistress, ma'am, etc. when messaging total strangers
• Anyone who actively seeks a partner who will cause them permanent physical or emotional harm
• Anyone who has refused the COVID-19 vaccine or boosters for political or religious reasons
• Anyone who has a problem with my continued mask-wearing (friend is high-risk)
• Anyone seeking casual, permanently long-distance, or online-only relationships
• Cuckolds, sissies, or brats
• Chastity, bondage, or foot fetishists
• Chubby chasers or feeders
• Misogynists, misandrists, or believers in any form of supremacy
• People who refer to themselves in third person (it, this sub, this slave, etc)
• Anyone unwilling or unable to give or receive penetrative sex
• Homophobes, political conservatives, or religious people

Contact Instructions

• List all of the must-haves above, one by one; do not leave any out
• Next to each item, write "yes" and/or elaborate on how you meet them, e.g. "Straight, bi, or pan - yes, straight"
• Write at least 5 sentences about yourself as a person, not only your kinks; the more you write, the more likely I am to reply
• Do not call me by honorifics such as goddess, mistress, ma'am, etc.; use my username to address me

Must-haves are not optional.

If you felt this ad was one big tl;dr, we're definitely not a match :)