This could be asking a lot if you're already overwhelmed with a lot of responsibility in your everyday life. I personally understand how that is and would advise you to skip onto the next. Likewise, if you're seeking an irl connection, please skip.

This type of connection isn't for everyone; the ones that get it or have experienced it before, do and the ones that don't, don't. You know your situation is unique, you have desires that can't easily be expressed unless you chose to upend your life entirely. You want a safe space, an escape where you can have your needs met and meet someone else's needs.

Dare I say I'm a former switch? I have my moments of wanting to take control. Nothing uncomfortable and invasive, just suggesting that you (at appropriate times in private) undress and masturbate for me while you work or relax. Not to say that I won't get you hard around company or in public, that's a no-brainer. Minor activities, such as, what to order in on a night you don't want to cook. I'm not rearranging your whole life or making you do things you don't want to.

I'm a friend that you spend more time thinking about and talking to than you should. Not an entirely bad influence, just an escape from what goes on in your life.

That's what I'm looking for. Hard job, hard home life and relationships? Better left unsaid. Personally, I've tried orgasm control and it does nothing for me. The pleasure I feel is from the mental stimulation you give me. You aren't trying to be dominant or smarter than I am; you're just being yourself. You've experienced life, from the sexual to the mundane. There's not much that surprises you. You've learned what makes you tick, your confident in yourself and your place in the world. That natural authority is going to put me under. My mind will sense that and surrender. It's not immediate, it doesn't mean I won't test that strength but I want to feel that I can trust you to be a dominant source in my life.

As for my submission, I want to look up to you for guidance. I want to feel like I'm talking to my dad. Not going to the point of regression but I grew up without one and I hate the normalization of the frequency and damage done by dads abandoning the families they created. I didn't notice his absence as much when I was younger but it hurts now, not having that resource to go to for advice or comfort. I've managed fine until now, mostly struggling with navigating adulthood on my own.

I like anything creative: art, anime, decorating, music, film, fashion, etc. I

Kinks: trophy, diet control, control, gooning, porn (men getting rimmed)

Limits: aggressive dominance

Very long, most definitely lost some readers on the way. If you made it to the end, send me a PM.