Hey there! I've heard it said that the best personal add only really needs to attract one person: the right person. So here's hoping you're out there and that you take a few minutes to read this.

tl;dr ...just in case.

I'm looking for a full blown in person committed relationship. I don't just want a play partner or someone I can only meet up with online. That means hopefully finding someone I can build a life with long term.

It's a bit of a long read so here's a little music to set the mood.

About me

I'm a 35 year old straight American male dom. I know there are a lot of us on here, but trust me it gets better. I am a self made man working as a computer programmer on distributed applications. I busted my ass all though my 20s working at tech startups so that now I have the means to work only part time on projects I am interested in and spend more of my time traveling and pursuing my interests outside of work. I enjoy reading, cooking, lots of different music, hiking, playing badminton and ttrpgs. I like regular Oreos better than double stuffed; I know it's crazy but I just gotta put that out there. My favorite way to unwind after a stressful week is to get stoned and read a fantasy novel. I love watching and talking about movies. My favorite date night is cooking dinner together and cuddling up to watch a good movie (or sometimes a bad movie can be just as fun). This could be us, but you're not two robots that I built with those special parts.

One of my greatest passions is to travel, whether that means drinking piña coladas on a beach at a fancy resort, getting lost in a foreign city looking for street food, spending all day at a great museum, or waking up in a tent at the foot of a mountain miles away from the nearest civilization. I've lived in a few different countries and I've visited many more and I've loved them all!

Some of my bucket list items:

• See a Blue Whale
  
• Take a stunt driving course
• Become fluent in Mandarin (I know enough now that I can order food and get around)
  
• Camp out under the northern lights
  

"But wait" I hear you object "this all seems pretty vanilla so far. What are you doing posting this in a bdsm forum?" Don't worry I was just getting to that.
So for the kinky and the curious: I like having passionate rough primal sex (choking, pulling hair, slapping , spanking, biting, throwing you around, and so on). I love seeing my partner tied up and helpless beneath me. I enjoy bondage, free use, deep-throating, begging, controlling your orgasms (edging, denial, forcing you to cum), sensory play, body writing, and some discrete public play (hidden toys, making you take off your panties under the table, secret instructions, things like that). I like being in control. I love to play with the psychological aspects of a D/s dynamic; finding out what turns you on, which punishments you enjoy, which ones you hate, and how to use that knowledge to get you deeper under my control. I want to turn you on, to make you want me so much it hurts, and sometimes hurt you so much you want me. I enjoy all the toys, apparatus, and devices, but you'd be amazed at what I can do with nothing more than a blindfold and a leather belt. I also like to switch on occasion, but I don't require that from my partner if its not for her.

I'm not interested in play involving diapers, urine, feces, blood, or anything overly filthy. I'm not into doing anything that will cause permanent injuries or long lasting marks. I'm not interested in any scenes or scenarios that involve sharing my sub with other men in any way.

I'm what you might call a loving dom. Nothing is more of a turn-on for me than being with someone who's greatest desire is to please me. A good sub will earn my respect and adoration. I will cherish her as my most prized possession and do my best to take care of her and use her every day. I am pretty laid back, but I can get serious when I need to be. I'm not a dom that is extremely aggressive or will ignore you and treat you like shit (maybe on occasion if you like), so if that's the kind of thing you want on a regular basis we probably won't be a great fit.

About you

Are you the girl I've been looking for?

Well you've read this far and are still interested so that's a pretty good sign. Some things that might mean we would be a good fit:

• You are intelligent and creative. You have at least one creative hobby (drawing, writing, baking, playing an instrument, whatever). I don't care how good you are, just that you enjoy it and keep practicing.
  
• You want nothing more than pleasing your partner and bringing value to his life, earning his praise and love every day.
  
• You understand that being submissive is not the same thing as being passive. A dynamic is something that the two of us will build by working together.
  
• You do not feel the need to compulsively photograph every meal you eat and post it on social media.
  
• This is you and this is how you'd like to spend your evenings.
  

It's not much fun talking about the negative stuff, but I don't want to waste anyone's time here so these are my deal-breakers. If any of these apply to you then we aren't going to be able have a good relationship together.

• You are vegetarian or vegan. Cooking and traveling are important to me and both pursuits are severely limited by a vegetarian diet. (If you are seafood only we can talk).
  
• You have kids.
• You are or want to be poly-amorous. I'm just not that good at sharing.
  

Boring logistical stuff

I am open to meeting someone from almost anywhere in the world. I currently work remotely and I'm a bit of a nomad so it's not a big deal for me to travel to a new city to meet someone interesting.

I believe that every dynamic is different and that it is something that we will create together over time. I'm open to a wide variety of different dynamic styles so it doesn't matter if you want to be a brat, pet, slave, housewife, fuckdoll, or other flavor of sub so long as you want to belong to someone in a fun, loving, and affectionate relationship.

If you are interested send me a message and we can trade pictures and get to know each other. I travel often so sometimes there can be a bit of a delay before I respond. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!