Rant

There are a million-and-one posts on here. Some are heartfelt and thorough, some are vaguely hopeful and shallow, far too many are frigging shopping lists of kinks written by people who wouldn't know a healthy D/S relationship if it suddenly leapt out of the nearest tree and bitch-slapped them about the face. A dominant-submissive relationship is a dynamic. It goes both ways. The dominant holds no power unless their submissive trusts them with it, and must work diligently to make sure they remain worthy of that control. Trust is everything, and it is always earned, never assumed. That strength, empathy, understanding and devotion is what makes a D/S relationship the magnificent thing it can be.

About me

Right, now that that's off my chest, hello! I'm 36, successful in my career, very well traveled, well educated, multilingual - I'm very into continuous learning (both about the world and about myself), meditation, running, soccer, investing and cars. I’m not looking for a relationship. If that is a dealbreaker, please stop reading here.

No one would guess this aspect of my life if they just knew me day to day - I’ve spent a fair bit of time getting very good at reading people - learning what they like but maybe haven’t explored due to taboo or not feeling safe enough to do so.I can be extremely creative and sadistic; but also like to tease extensively and build gradually.

Physically I'm in shape, 6'3'', black hair, olive skin. I've been told I look stern and handsome.

Who are you

I'm very into smart women with lots of repressed desires; or alpha women who yearn to give up control behind closed doors.

No matter who you are or what you've accomplished, there's something in your life that's both important and missing. What you're really missing is freedom. Not freedom to make your own choices, but freedom from your own choices. You're stuck in a milieu that places constant, incessant demands on how you should act, how you should look, how you should think. You're surrounded by people who won't accept who you really are. And you're entrapped in your own conscience that's constantly trying to constrict and contort you into the shape that your upbringing or your religion or your family or your culture or community tells you that you must be. I will break your chains. I will dig deep enough into your mind to find the real "you", the primal, aboriginal animal essence that you've bricked over with layer after layer of inhibition. I will break your seal, and I will build a space for us where, under my guidance, you can learn who you really are and how to access and embrace and enjoy your true self.

What our dynamic will look like

Again, please note that I am NOT looking for a relationship. You can be attached or single, I am indifferent.

I lead a *very* busy and stressful life IRL. I am looking for someone who would enjoy creating an escape with me - a dynamic that we can slip into once or twice a week at mutually convenient times.

We will first establish trust and then play online on video - either over Discord or Skype.

Privacy, both yours and mine, is extremely important to me. I am looking for someone who appreciates this and I've found that the highly intelligent / well educated women I typically find myself attracted to understand this.

Who I am NOT interested in

I find myself only attracted to partners who are in shape or actively working towards getting in shape. This is a personal preference.

Next steps
Drop me a note with your age, location/timezone, a short description of yourself and the name of the last book you read and we can go from there.