Hello! I write a lot so I broke it into easy to read sections.

ABOUT ME

Physically- I'm a 35 year old white man. I'm 5'8", relatively active though not in as good as shape as I want to be. I'm a pretty average build, not thin/not fat, a little muscular, I won't say dad bod but like, I dunno? Someone called it “squishy muscular” and I like that. Slightly olive skin, dark hair, deep brown eyes, glasses-wearer. fully vaccinated & boosted.. Happy to share pics if we start talking!

About me- I'm a very introverted, neurodivergent, ADHD-having homebody who goes through various stages of hyperfixations. I'm bookish, quiet, & slightly aloof, though I tend to open up very much once I get to know someone and feel more comfortable around them. I’ve begun to identify as demisexual which honestly makes a lot of sense sifting through those feelings over the years . I love reading books, playing videogames, watching bad movies (and occasionally good ones), and my cat. I do enjoy the outdoors despite my homebodyness, usually going to coffee shops or trying new restaurants, or taking (very amateur) photography, and just exploring my city.

I’m very very left-leaning. Politics and world issues mean a lot to me, and I very strongly prefer others that share similar views as me. I’m immediately suspicious of anyone who says they’re moderate or “just not into politics”. I constantly go through crises or identity, worrying if I’m actively contributing to the capitalist decay of society by having a career in finance, wondering if I’m one of the bad guys. ACAB includes the Paw Patrol dogs.

In short, I’m a colorful, introspective, inquisitive mess!

The Kinky Stuff- I identity mostly as a soft, sensual, pleasure (and sometimes service) dom; it just feels the most natural to me. I love having control and power over my partner, having the privilege of someone submitting to me, but I love the soft, gentle approach, the feeling of my partner melting away at the thought of intimacy with me. I enjoy earning my partners submission by being too irresistible to say 'no' to in that respect.

Trust is extremely important to me; without it there's nothing. I had a pretty dysfunctional and neglectful adolescence growing up and part of me wonders if my BDSM desires stem somewhat from that. My goal is to be your comfort, your escape from the world, and your accountability.

Sexually, I'm very much a hedonist, a little primal, and a little sadistic. Sometimes letting the raw emotion take over creates an incredible experience where we just focus heavily on each other in a cloud of lustful bliss. I live for those moments. I've been at this for a few years now, so while I won't say I'm a master of all things BDSM, I'm pretty experienced enough to be comfortable in my own skin. Though, we're all learning and evolving, yknow?

My ideal partner is someone who shares the same qualities as me; you're communicative, empathetic, loving, giving, nerdy, cares about mental health, and have a strong desire to explore. Being left-leaning & giving a fuck about the state of the world, again is very important to me, so I sure hope it is for you! I seek someone who's passionate and driven in their own lives, but still seeks and yearns to give control to someone. I guess you'd say maybe someone who's submissive but still has a dominant personality. Finally, I am DDF, with an STD panel to prove it, and so I also seek someone who is STD/STI free.

I'm open to every s-type, though I vibe best with brats and sluts!

I'm located in Baltimore city itself, and am looking for something local! So preferably nearby or at least within driving distance.

If you felt any of this resonate with you, send me a message! I hope to hear from you!