Some of my best dynamics were with married/taken women, and hope to build something new with a submissive cheater.

We will play mostly/entirely online, and I have no desire to change your situation or otherwise disrupt your life. That said, I am open to IRL meetings, eventually, if circumstances allow.

Let me be the secret thread running through your days and nights, keeping you sane and allowing you to selfishly indulge.

I’ll be your friend, coach, sadistic control freak, and will become the first thing you think of when you wake up.

Over time, I will corrupt you and help you explore all the kinks you don’t get to experience at home. I will use you to fulfill mine. I’ll force you to make time for yourself, and for us.

There are a lot of ways things can develop between two complex adults, and I’m not incredibly prescriptive. I’ve been a brat tamer. I’ve been a disciplinarian helping my partner meet her goals. I’ve been an assertive Sadist to help satisfy a closeted or curious pain slut. I’ve been a trainer, helping women become better submissives, better lovers, better servants. No matter what our combined heatmap looks like, I’m always a friend and confident who wants to know all your secrets and invade your most private moments.

A little about me: 45. Caucasian. Cute. Heavily tattooed. 5’9” with a fit/lean build. Greying brown hair. Pretty green eyes. Striking cheekbones. I’m a very successful executive in the tech industry and travel frequently, but am usually available to chat, call, or check in. I don’t ghost, nor do I try to rush every friendly chat to be something more.

When it comes to BDSM, I have 20 years of experience IRL and about 5 years of online experience. I’m firmly Dominant (but very sweet) and not remotely switchy. I don’t tend to click with switches, but am open-minded as long as you know I’ll never submit. I adhere to RACK principles, but play well in an SSC context. Consent and aftercare are hard requirements, as is total honesty.

Kink-wise, I’ve done a lot, and know what I enjoy. Sometimes, I go through phases, but the constants IRL are:

• Bondage (including shibari)
• Sensation play (pain, pleasure, fear, anticipation, shame)
• Sensory deprivation
• Privacy invasion/voyeurism (consensual - usually revolving around mundane details and moments)
• Impact/spanking/slapping
• Arterial choking/consciousness control

With online dynamics, more common elements have included:

• Privacy invasion
• Scheduled tasks/check-ins/inspections
• Journaling
• Discipline & reward/punishment
• Bathroom use control
• Training (examples: anal/vaginal stretching; throat/gag control; diet & exercise; slut training)

That said, only the first two are requirements. I know things will take shape as we get to know each other.

For communication, I prefer Telegram, and enjoy speaking/video calls as much as writing, though the latter is easier most of the time.

I do expect to share content with one another once trust is established, though an early attraction check is required (face/body pic swap).

Finally, I’m open to most age ranges, but prior experience tells me someone roughly between 30 and 45 feels right.

Message me if you’d like to chat, check chemistry, etc.