"Your path is your own. Figure out what you need, what you want, and what is going to make you happy. Submitting doesn’t mean compromising your essential self. Your submission is a part of you, and expressing it should enrich you. The idea is to find yourself in it, not lose yourself to it. Choose a partner who wants to go in the same direction you do, and walk together."

The above is from Conquer Me from Kacie Cunningham, a writer who has a true gift for putting feelings and experiences into words. While the entire book is excellent, I liked this quote specifically because it describes the overall experience as one of self-discovery and self-improvement, and stresses the importance of finding the right person who can help you make that journey.

While D/s is described as a sexual kink, I think it goes way beyond sex to an essential part of the human experience. When human beings are pushed to their limits and then recover, they become smarter, faster, stronger, and tougher, and all training and education going back to the ancient Greeks is based on this simple idea. And modern medicine and psychology is now telling us that if you want to live a healthy and satisfied life, you need regular physical and mental stimulation plus purpose and direction.

D/s also goes beyond sex in that it requires a very high level of trust and intimacy. You can have casual sex, but there's nothing casual about handing over control of yourself to someone else in exchange for their attention, direction, and care, especially when pain and pleasure is involved. For me, the trust and intimacy is a strong part of the appeal, because nowadays our lives seem to be full of everything except authenticity and genuine interpersonal connections.

If you have the same take on D/s that I do - seeing relationships as an opportunity to develop physically and mentally and share a high level of trust and intimacy with someone deserving of it - then we may be compatible. I assume that the subs what would have the most interest in me as a Dom are intelligent and ambitious women building their professional careers, a type I've dated & been in relationships with for most of my life, although I am also open to people with other interests and objectives.

A little about me - I am a well educated professional and former "giftie" who covers a lot of ground intellectually - tech, finance, history, psychology, math, economics, business, and writing, just off the top of my head. People who don't know me all that well describe me as social, easy-going, patient, and empathic, since I can talk to just about anyone about anything and meet them where they are emotionally and intellectually. But the real me is quiet, controlled, analytical and highly goal-oriented - I'm an INTP if you know the type.

Physically I'm more compatible with smaller women, as I'm just over 5'6". I am health conscious and work out every day and am on TRT (which apparently women can smell). I don't have a long list of sex kinks but I definitely enjoy the ones that I have which are all centered around dominance - impact, role play, bondage, CNC, edging/denial, and am willing to try out similar stuff. I get along exceptionally well with lesbians for reasons I still don't entirely understand.

If you're interested and are in the Los Angeles / Beverly Hills area, please send a DM or chat request and we'll go from there. Thanks for reading and look forward to hearing from you.