Recently I was conversing with someone and hit a red line where they immediately severed communications - it's entirely on me for being too much. While a man reading this might guess that I said something sexual that was too demeaning or overtly sexual, our female reader will quickly guess it was about personal information or contact. This led me to using my weekly personal to ask you ladies some of your perspective on the issue, because I would like to be a good partner regardless of the nature of relationship, and I feel I can use guidance. This might, in fact, be the best personal I could write.

People come here with a desire that is generally frowned upon in society, and they are rightfully guarded about who and where they are before building a lot of trust. At the same time, it's a lot easier to talk about doing these acts than physically meeting to, you know, do the things you actually want to do. And with an air of at least some romance and desire built into this, it's hard to form a checklist or a coherent timeline and keep things romantic, with complete respect to our German members for whom that might be their thing.

I am aware of how hazardous the internet is for women. My female friends advise me of this, and while I haven't done the classic exercise of creating a female profile and collecting all the dick pics, I understand that a girl cutting contact and me respecting this is too often not the case. Add your specific sexual kinks as well, and that multipies, not adds, I'm sure.

A lot of these women I talk to are submissive - society makes them repress their urges and they have to let a man "make them" fulfill them. Often there will be a point where a girl seems to want to continue, but doesn't know how. I know the obvious answer is "let her make the choice," but often she's been counting on me to set up structure and lead things, and I can see her trying to balance what she's been taught with what she physically needs. Balancing her need for direction and need for free will is difficult nuance. Add in the fact that each of you have your own background, your own triggers and experiences, and that makes it hard to be right where you need me.

There's also the fact that *I'm* looking for a relationship, not an opportunity to be a free lance fantasy writer. I'm by nature incredibly overcommitted, and I can be invested in someone but see it is easier for her not to move forward ever than make a choice; I can wait, but I'm not here to wait forever.

That's where I beg your favor. I'd like to hear instances where guys pushed you when they shouldn't have and you broke communications, and when guys were at entirely the right place and made it right for you whether or not things worked. My goal is to be the second and not the first. I write to girls because I see potential between us, and if she sees the same, I hope we can find happiness. I appreciate your patience reading and your DM if you deign send one.

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Since this is also my allotted personal ad for the week, 3 cute cat girls with oral fixations, please and thank you. I now return you to your phallic photo gallery and collection of two word DMs.