Hello all 526 kinksters currently online here. I'm TJ and I'm looking for new connections for online or local play. I'm 48, look younger, tall and dark, and outside kink I have a normal life/business. I am single though through choice, no secret wives who don't know about my love of kink.

I mostly Dom, and all my IRL experience is Domming women, mostly existing friends I already knew. I've also met a lot of people on Reddit over the years for online sessions and now have friends all over the world I've played with and stayed in touch with as friends. Most are now settling down though, which makes it harder. I'm not really a scene person, it's just never appealed to me.

My kinks are impact play, breast bondage and punishment/nipple torture (these two are huge, I'm breast obsessed), insertions, role play, light humiliation (not into name calling or body shaming though). I am quite a sadist so I do tend towards quite heavy play if I'm allowed, but always respect limits and don't take the whole thing hugely serious - also big into aftercare and keeping in touch.

As my title says, I'm kind of a switch- this is partly because I have a bit of a thing about being punished for the sessions I do with others and what I put them through. I have so many toys and tools here at home and I've recently got into being made to use them on myself. I've also had my first sessions with guys where I'm the Dom- my interest here is CBT and i've really enjoyed torturing cocks online - I'm not into anal anything ever (think Freud would have something to say about that...)

My ideal connection would be someone who wants to submit to me (either M or F or T) and use items on themselves for my pleasure as I watch their their torment and pain. Or alternatively for me to submit to them. Or even a switch session of taking turns or having X minutes each for tasks and punishments

As you can see, I love to write, so i'm quite happy to get into role plays and can play as someone you know if you want. I'm also really into writing training plans and detailed checklists. However please note that I know nothing about fantasy or anime or anything like that, so if you want that i'm not your man.

Give me a shout if any of this makes any sense to you, or if you'd just like to chat, my inbox is open