Hi All! Im going to attempt to be really direct here in the hopes that I can find what I’m looking for - if what I lay out below doesn’t describe you, please don’t waste your time or mine. Please strap yourselves in and read until the end ☺️

About me: I’m a switch born and raised in NYC and I’ve been involved in the kink community for several years. My experience is mainly sub irl and domme online, though I have done some of everything. I have plenty of kinks in both arenas that I’m happy to discuss if we get along. I work from home and have a very sweet dog. I’m self sufficient (more on that later) and emotionally intelligent. I don’t like playing games. I’ve never been big into monogamy, or polyamory for that matter but sometimes I think it would be hot being in a LTR with someone who likes to be cuckolded, take as you will. A sweet spot for me is usually having friends that that I care about and get along with and are just as happy to fuck around with me as they are to hear about my time with others and give advice and the like. Physically I’m white, 5’6” and I have thick thighs a fat ass and great feet (I’ve been told by every catcaller I’ve encountered but you’re welcome to reserve judgement for yourself), brown curly hair, greenish eyes, a few tattoos and piercings. I’m happy to exchange pictures if/when it comes to that.

Recent experience: While I’ve been very happy with my physical sex life recently I’ve found myself disappointed with my online interactions. After having a really successful and fulfilling Locktober as an online keyholder I was seeking similar scenarios with more long-term subs and less than a month later I find myself pretty drained - it can be hard out here! Anyway not to be negative, just to provide context for…

What I’m looking for: As the title says, I’m looking to be doted on. There’s no particular way this has to look for me but I do want someone out there who’s rooting for me, who sends me cute messages, who’s invested in my happiness and not just looking for a kink dispenser. Someone who will chat with me on the phone for an hour or send me videos of them jerking off for me (oops) or coo at me and send me soup when I’m sick. Though I pride myself on being independent and self sufficient, as mentioned, I’ve been feeling the need recently to have someone in my life who really gives a shit about me. Whether you’re a dom/sub/switch matters less to me as long as you’re available emotionally as well as just in terms of time. As mentioned, I work from home and like to chat during the day. I wake up and sleep early if that factors. As for the emotional availability, what I mean is that you’re open, enjoy talking to me about all things big and small, are able to communicate if you need to be away for a while and why, and ideally, if we’ve been talking for a while and something difficult comes up in your life, you feel that you can bring it up with me as a friend and give me the opportunity to support you rather than telling me something vague about something coming up and things being hard so you might not be in touch for a while (no reason this is so specific lol). To be clear I’m certainly not asking to be the number one priority in your life, just to be clear and intentional with my time and emotions. For all my faults I can confidently say I treated everyone I’ve dealt with with the respect we all deserve, hopefully you can say the same.

Anywayyy I'm based in NYC, so if you are too, or if you travel there often, there's opportunities for irl connections. I'm looking for 25-45 age range give or take. Please do not reach out to me if you are married/ in monogamous relationship where you’re partner wouldn’t be aware/on board with this.

If any of this interests you, please reach out! Please be respectful and understand I won't tolerate unsolicited dick pics. Please use “blueberry” in your message so I know you made it to the end-best to use the word and not the emoji, I’m told the latter doesn’t come through sometimes.

Thanks!