tldr; I'm an inexperienced black Caribbean/latine 19 y/o genderqueer femme (they/he/she pronouns) living in Ohio. i have a sort of slim pear-shape body, tiny perky tits and above-shoulder-length curly hair. i want to build a friendship with an experienced 18-22 y/o soft dom(me) who would want to care for me, creating a safe learning space for me to grow into my submission. Ideally, someone who I find attractive, who is considerate of my gender identity, is self-secured, and enjoys being caring/soothing, so as to counterbalance my anxiousness and insecurity. No one into raceplay or racial/ethnic fetish.

what i look like :3 (sfw pics)

hi hi pls read me & text me if u believe we're compatible, let's discover if we find each other attractive and have common interests and values. <3

♡ me & my (in)-experience ♡

I live in Ohio for the majority of the year as an international college student. I'm a Black caribbean/latine genderqueer femme who goes by they/he/she pronouns. I do NOT want to interact with anyone with a racial fetish.

I'm 5'5-5'6, I think. I have short (above shoulder length) curly hair, a slim pear-shape body type, tiny perky tits and, like, medium thighs and ass.

I describe myself as "inexperienced," in that I have no experience with oral or penetrative sex, or with practicing BDSM offline.

Since I was too young to be doing so, I've sexted online. In an online setting, I've accessed sexual pleasure that I haven't been able to access through engaging sexually with people offline. With partners online, I've experienced sexual submission that has brought me this sense of being high on pleasure, of allowing myself to be freed by surrending control to the other person, of my mind becoming emptied and simple—with pleasure as its sole production—of my mind being overrun by pleasure that vibrates, emanates, and tingles through my body.

Offline, I've only had some sexual experiences with my partner at the time, and I was never comfortable asking for nor did I think it was feasible for me to access that pleasure with him. I crave that feel-good sensation, because my mind and body are highly inclined toward detachment, emotional avoidance, and criticism that dulls and mutes pleasure. This has usually been most evident in my offline, RL interactions and attempts. This disconnect between online and offline sexual pleasure, has led me to assume that such bliss can only be fantasy and horizon—never lived experience with a RL partner.

Because of the violence I accepted, sought, and became accostumed to in those online spaces, I have often fluctuated between hypersexuality and sexual repulsion. In consideration of this, my strategy has been to restrict myself to sexting or masturbating, but I'm not devoid of sexual desire and I crave praise, so I want to find someone with whom I can explore with another person my inclinations to submit and live submission and safety, jointly.

♡ looking for partner who... ♡

° is 18-22 ° is in Ohio, US ° wants to befriend an inexperienced sub, for us to build a connection to meet IRL and, eventually, have bdsm sessions ° preferably, is experienced with training/guiding/caring for a submissive ° enjoys soft domming. being 'lovingly degrading/condescending' (in general, praising me for responding well to degradation or your display of dominance.) Note, I can only take degradation and humiliation/embarassment when I don't feel you actually see me as lesser-than outside our sexual play ° likes using petnames like princess, bunny, sweetheart, pretty boy/ girl ° is comfortable sending SFW pics of themselves, potentially NSFW ° is, maybe, into some mild aspects of pet play, like collaring and cutesy pet-like degradation

☆ my interests & likes ☆

digital drawing/painting, gaming (Life is Strange, Zelda BoTW, Mario games, Beyond Two Souls, etc.), trees, queer theory / philosophy (Michel Foucault, Judith Butler, Audre Lorde, etc.), writing (mainly prose), history, linguistics, music, animanga (Psycho Pass, Blue Period, RomanticxKiller, HunterxHunter, Fullmetal Alchemist, Monthly Girl Nozaki-kun, Jujutsu Kaisen, etc.)

p.s.: I speak Spanish, as well. Also, for reasons for which I have not been diagnosed, I tend to befriend ADHDers/autistics, so if you're either, it's possible we're likely to get along lol